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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: ja.pani.ka on March 15, 2016, 05:10:23 PM



Title: My goodbye letter
Post by: ja.pani.ka on March 15, 2016, 05:10:23 PM
Ok, so my T. asked me to write a farewell letter to my ex. (not to send it to him, just to let my feelings out). Here it is, maybe it will help somebody else, too. With love.


Hey Boy,

A year ago you stole my heart.

You caressed it so much, and then you wounded it – even more.

Slowly I am getting my heart back. A lot of things still bring the pain. I still cry, sometimes, passing by the places where I was so happy with you, when I sit in the car, when I happen to see a photo or something you gave me. Sometimes I do get angry, at my fate, at you, at myself. I do miss your smile, your touch, your jokes, your tenderness, your care. I feel relief that you can not hurt me anymore. As it was always with you – so many opposite emotions.

You wanted to write down what you are grateful for every day. But you couldn't. I can. I wish to thank you. For the good part, as it reminded me how beautiful, tender and full of love I can be. For the bad part, as it showed me how strong I am. I feel as if life brought you so that I could look closely at myself. So I could understand what it is that I really want: sensitivity, mindfulness, openness to emotions, maybe even a bit of folly. And what I certainly do not want: somebody limiting me, yet constantly breaking my borders. Me solving somebody else's problems.

I am grateful for that beautiful and difficult year. I'm grateful for every single day.



Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: ShakinMyHead on March 15, 2016, 06:26:50 PM
Bravo Ja.pani.ka! Just beautiful! SMH



Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: WoundedBibi on March 15, 2016, 06:58:10 PM
Nerve touched  :'(

Thank you ja.pani.ka


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: jessedsickabouther on March 15, 2016, 07:28:59 PM
Very nice letter.  ! Very sweet! !


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: iamexhausted on March 15, 2016, 07:58:38 PM
That was really beautiful and encompasses so many of the feelings I have towards my exSO.


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: ja.pani.ka on March 16, 2016, 09:33:53 AM
Thank you so much. It means a lot to me to see you have similar thoughts and feelings.


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: steelwork on March 16, 2016, 09:39:14 AM
Thank you so much. It means a lot to me to see you have similar thoughts and feelings.

Wonderful letter, and so concise. Which shows that you are doing great at not looking for answer from the guy.


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: Eyeamme on March 16, 2016, 02:56:22 PM
What a beautiful letter.


Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: Feelinstronger on March 16, 2016, 03:44:24 PM
Your letter is wonderful.  I think many of us have so very many beautiful memories mixed in with the heartbreak, and your letter is a great expression of that.



Title: Re: My goodbye letter
Post by: Penelope35 on March 17, 2016, 04:06:19 AM
I identify so much with these words of yours that it made me cry. So well written.