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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Scopikaz on March 29, 2016, 05:26:11 PM



Title: Friend brought up good point
Post by: Scopikaz on March 29, 2016, 05:26:11 PM
I see the people my ex is friending on fb. Both the men (who I think she has interests in) and women all seem to frequent the bars too and seem to be players, users, or somewhat shallow. Not all of them mind you. But most of them appear that way.

My friend pointed out that ultimately we become like the people we surround ourselves with. Or maybe we surround ourselves with people we are like. Not sure which. Maybe both. 

But it seems true. She's becoming like those she's surrounding herself with. Which is sad in my opinion. 

Maybe she will land on her feet. Be happy. Meet mr right. Live happily ever after. Who knows. But it just seems like based on what I'm seeing none of them will give her any direction, peace, or purpose in life.  Because they all share or have a similar lifestyle.



Title: Re: Friend brought up good point
Post by: tryingsome on March 29, 2016, 08:14:23 PM
 a road goes two directions.

you can look to the right and see the forward

and the left the backwards.

and if walk across the street

is it not the right reversed on the perspective?

So Scopikaz, maybe those across the are already on their feet

maybe they are guide for her

or she a guide for them

or maybe they might guide you a bit

there are no player or users or shallow people here

this space remains occupied by you.

look around you and see yourself

notice, are you moving in the way you see the road?