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I'm so tired of being hurt . She tells me that I don't do anything wrong she stopped stays on her phone 24/7 . When we get ready to go to bed I say good night and ask for a kiss and it takes like 20 minutes to get a response. I feel like she's talking to other people because she hides things from . I love this girl with all my heart , I just want to get everything back to normal because this girl is the love of my life .

Sorry you are being hurt. Mine did the same thing. Always on the phone... .Unfortunately-  it won't go back to how it was... .you have to find a new normal. Keep learning what you can here.

Yes our pwBPD will sometimes get distant. Usually they distance themselves because of fear of abandonment. Im just taking a guess that she might be feeling that way.

But what I see right now is that you are feeling alot of pain. You are suffering because you want to get back all that wonderful intimacy you guys have. Here's the hard truth you can't realy  on anyone to fill any emotional voids in you. It will always make you miserable. Trust me I've been there.

So what do you do?

I pray. Talking to God and asking him to fill my emotional needs really helps. Our partner s with BPD may not be able to be there for us like we want sometimes. They have a mental illness. So the expectations are a bit different. That's why I constantly preach self care.

You love this woman so love her by loving yourself. Love her by building your self esteem, love her by seeking therapy, love her by taking care of your mind body and spirit.

It's hard work but once you put in the work of self care then you will be better equipped to deal with the trials and ups and downs that come with being  in a relationship with some with a mental illness.

I'm glad your on this board too. This board is a very healing place to write out our thoughts and emotions. Take care and blessings to you.