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Title: What we don't want... Post by: JerryRG on April 06, 2016, 02:51:16 PM Hello everyone
I just came home from a great meeting in AA One person shared her heartbroken first marrage and how it took her a very long time to get past the resentments toward her ex. She told us what helped her, her sponsor asked her what she learned from this relationship? Her reply... .a child and that's it. Later in recovery she found her answer She now knows what she doesn't want She may not yet know what she does want. As for me? I want someone I can trust Love Believe Listen Care Reciprocate Understand Respect... . I hope this helps someone One day at a time, we will get through this. Title: Re: What we don't want... Post by: blackbirdsong on April 06, 2016, 03:15:21 PM Reciprocate I just want this. The rest is my job. :) Title: Re: What we don't want... Post by: JerryRG on April 06, 2016, 03:20:44 PM Indeed blackbirdsong
I don't want: Lies Drama Manipulation Disrespect Cheating Stealing Pity Chaos Danger Craziness Jealosy Threats Abuse That's not too much to ask is it? Lol Title: Re: What we don't want... Post by: Mutt on April 06, 2016, 09:19:08 PM Indeed blackbirdsong I don't want: Lies Drama Manipulation Disrespect Cheating Stealing Pity Chaos Danger Craziness Jealosy Threats Abuse That's not too much to ask is it? Lol Looking at your posts with what you want and don't want are characteristics of unhealthy and healthy relationships. Boundaries helps with building healthy relationships. Boundaries is self compassion, boundaries is an invisible outwards layer that protects our core values. This is a good article to determine the health of your relationship. Characteristics of Healthy Relationships (https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a115.htm) Title: Re: What we don't want... Post by: Teereese on April 06, 2016, 11:15:05 PM Hello everyone I just came home from a great meeting in AA One person shared her heartbroken first marrage and how it took her a very long time to get past the resentments toward her ex. She told us what helped her, her sponsor asked her what she learned from this relationship? Her reply... .a child and that's it. Later in recovery she found her answer She now knows what she doesn't want She may not yet know what she does want. As for me? I want someone I can trust Love Believe Listen Care Reciprocate Understand Respect... . I hope this helps someone One day at a time, we will get through this. Absolutely. I know exactly what I do not want and cannot accept. Right now, I want peace and quiet, my family and friends and to just focus on me. Finding the lost part of me, rebuilding the broken part of me and creating the me that I want and was meant to be. At some point, I'd like a relationship but now is not the time. I find being alone quite soothing. I forgot about all of the things I like doing out of simple enjoyment. I also know I have some work to do. I |