Title: Been going great suddenly she is hating EVERYONE Post by: oz geary on April 22, 2016, 07:01:24 PM So, me n my BPDgf got back together, she is in therapy and is far better than she was and better than alot of other sufferers, I have a new job and a new place to live after loosing my last job and apartment, everything has been great, she had a little 'moment' the other night due to alcohol and being tired but I used 'wise mind' ,broke the circle of conflict and didn't make it worse. It worked brilliantly I'm happy to say. I love this girl with all my heart and after alot of breakups n makeups and her leaving me and me leaving her, I have decided to really commit to this girl, for better or worse I want to spend the rest of my life with her. However, I am now living about half an hour away from her actually on the site where I now work. Today we have been talking and everything was good, but she has had some trouble tonight with her family and a male friend who made it clear he wants her. I'm anxious but I trust her. She has also been let down for a job today that she was really hoping for. I called her to say hi and whatnot and she told me what had happened then split for a moment and I seemed she didn't trust or have any hope in me too. It only lasted a moment and she apologised soon after and I thanked her for that. Anyway, her might has carried on and I tried to call her after a while to see how she was and she said she had been upset by her mother and also her male friend who is over. He had apparently made it clear he has feelings and she feels like she can't trust anyone now and that everyone let's her down. Ibwas trying my best to talk her out of her depression and I was remaining calm and validating what she was saying but she transferred it onto me, shouted down the phone and hung up. She hasn't replied to msgs, she didn't answer my calls and nowhere phone is either off or she has blocked my number. I'm sickbwith worry that she may get into a fight with her mums bf who is, quite frankly, a dick. I'm worried she may hurt herself or she may sleep with her male friend to hurt me. (But I don't think she would coz she is loads better thanks to therapy) anyway, I don't know what to do now. It's late, I have work in the morning but can't sleep coz of anxiety. I'll keep trying to call her. Using 'wise mind' ,,, emotionally, I want to keep trying to get through to her, logically I can't keep trying all night, so,, I shall keep trying but I can't try forever. But what if she never answers me back? What if tomorrow she doesn't reply and still won't answer her phone? How long should I keep trying? I have no transport so can't get to her. What's my best course of action? Plz help x
Title: Re: Been going great suddenly she is hating EVERYONE Post by: Turkish on April 25, 2016, 11:48:07 PM What's happened in the last few days? Distance is tough, and the orbiter is another dynamc to deal with.
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