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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Prue on April 25, 2016, 03:17:52 AM



Title: Being ignored by someone I was getting close too
Post by: Prue on April 25, 2016, 03:17:52 AM
I met a guy about a month ago, we live an hour and a half away from each other, we'd talk/text each other everyday - I'd travel up to see him most times, even with my 3 children, he has none! Travelling the distance and making time for him isn't an issue for me, he introduced me to his friends and I appreciated that, and his family knew about us, it wasn't a secret and I loved that! However the last two times I went too see him, I got the impression he wasn't as interested in me, one being for the fact that when we were at his place and he got home from work he just walked straight past me and got in the shower, no hello or anything until he got out, I felt slightly uncomfortable... The next time we went up he was playing video games, that's fine I don't mind if he plays games, but he didn't get up to come see us in and didn't give any indication that he was happy too see us either until he stopped playing his game... Anyway I felt that maybe I was more into him than he was me and sent him a message voicing my concerns without giving the evidence as to why, I simply told him that I feel that maybe he's not as into it as me, that maybe if I didn't travel up and what not that maybe I wouldn't get too see him, I also told him that I'm happy too make the effort and time too see him if that is really what he wanted and that time and effort when it comes too him isn't an issue and that effort goes both ways, and that's with the whole how I'm approached when I go and see him... Anyways he ignored that message, I sent him the usual good morning on the next morning and that too was ignored, I asked him if he was okay and I even said sorry if I upset him and that that was not my intentions and that him and his feelings actually do mean something too me and asked him if he could talk, that too was ignored, anyways 4 days later I receive a message saying that hates how I questioned him - I replied saying that I can understand that and that I hate that I did too and asked if we can still talk, 4 hours later nothing, yeah he may be busy and I don't want to suffocate him with sending another message but I generally like this guy and actually want too continue talking too him and not be ignored, I've run options through my head but I'm unsure what I can do without coming across desperate or needy


Title: Re: Being ignored by someone I was getting close too
Post by: Turkish on April 26, 2016, 12:31:35 AM
It sounds like he triggered somehow. It's hard to speculate why (and wondering why may run you around in circles, further frustrating you given his lack of responsiveness). Of you had to step back, what are you core values here with regards to a budding relationship?