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Hello everyone

My question is when I first started hanging out with me exgf, she told me how her life changed during her high school years and that she became depressed and suicidal and lost everything.

I've learned from others she was well then in her late teens began showing signs of BPD.

While married to her ex husband she claimed to be in DBT but her ex husband refused to pay for the treatment and forced her to stop.

She never was a big drinker and after her divorce she went on a spree of suicide gestures and drinking heavily and drugs, pot and eventually meth.

When we began seeing each other she was on meth but wouldn't bring it around me but I could see how she acted, staying up, no sleep and wild behaviours.

After she stopped the meth and spent a whole 2 weeks in rehab she and I started a serous relationship. I didn't know it at the time but she was stealing pain pills from anyone she could find.

Then came the aches and pains and the weekly visits to ER and doctor offices. That spring and summer were constant trips back and forth so she could get her opiates

She got pregnant in July, and I never thought the opiates were an issue as she always explained she would never abuse them.

In November she came to me on a Friday morning sick as a dog so I took her to the ER, they admitted her and I sat with her from Friday morning through Sunday as she threw up every 15 minutes and our OGBYN would have our babies heart monitored for the stress he was going through.

Sunday our OGBYN came into her room and explained she was being court ordered into 90 days drug treatment.

Doctor left and she exploded, calling her friends and they came in yelling to her she need not listen to the doctors or me.

I had nothing to do with the court order at all so I left because I wasn't going to listen to this bs.

She text me later that Sunday and says I'm not allowed to be around her because the doctors believed I was supplying her opiates which I was not and I was in shock for getting any blame at all.

She goes to a 30 day treatment then 60 days in a shelter for pregnant addicts.

Gets out then we get back together, she's telling me the whole 90 days her court appointed lawyer is protecting her and our son from me? Joke

She was on opiates about the time my son was 6 months old from back surgury, she fell down 3 or 4 times a week and we know that was to injure herself so she wouldn't have to work.

QUESTION? She later tells me she never was BPD and that it was all about substance abuse. One other person told me my exgf wasn't BPD but she's the only person I've met who said this other than my exgf.

My exgf displays all the behaviours of BPD, perfectly except she only raged a few dozen times, and usually just layed around in depression and pretend aches and pains, (still doing this)

She is a drug addict in need of recovery, this is certain. Do BPD and addictions overlap? She is diagnosed ADD, Bipolar as well.

Yes.

Anything to make the turmoil on the inside less or make the boredom go away or make them feel something if they feel numb. Alcohol, drugs, sex, porn, video games, gambling, food. Anything you can get addicted to.