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Title: Reall need help with this one.. why oh why the hardcore NC card? Post by: Bushido on April 30, 2016, 02:24:21 PM i just have to ask. .
okey i´m in a position of going thru divorce with my udBPDw. I wanted to work thru the problems and have been trying to the last few years. But 2 weeks after she moved out . . she cheated on me (but to her she didn´t cos she already moved out) . . still she has been talking to this guy for 4 months. . . met him 4 times . . and then slept with him. So okey . . i get it. . . this divorce is happening! But i have 4 kids with this woman . . . and i don´t see how i can just go NC? Can someone . . . just anyone . . . tell me ! what the hell am i suppose to do? All i want is to at least try to have good communication with her! I´m not trying anything no more. . . this is her sh... and she has to deal with it.! I gave her everything i possibly could to try make things work. . . . . But she still kicks me down and calls me the bad guy! our psychiatrist knows, our kids psychiatrist knows . . . and not cos i told them . . I SHOWED THEM! same with our marriage counselor! But dispite all . . . there is no NC possible . . .we have 4 kids. all i want is to keep things cool and move on with my life. But still . . that means to keep things good between me and my co parenting partner ... . Title: Re: Reall need help with this one.. why oh why the hardcore NC card? Post by: Kwamina on May 02, 2016, 10:51:18 AM Hi bushido,
This is a very tough situation to be in indeed. There are kids involved which would definitely make it very difficult to be completely NC. I think you could perhaps benefit from reading the stories and material on the Co-parenting board: Co-parenting after the Split (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=9.0) In the right-hand side margin of the board you will find tools and lessons that can help with successful shared parenting. I encourage you to take a look at those resources. How are your kids dealing with this situation? What kind of relationship do your kids currently have with their mother? Take care Title: Re: Reall need help with this one.. why oh why the hardcore NC card? Post by: Bushido on May 05, 2016, 02:10:55 PM This is a very tough situation to be in indeed. There are kids involved which would definitely make it very difficult to be completely NC. I think you could perhaps benefit from reading the stories and material on the Co-parenting board: Co-parenting after the Split (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=9.0) How are your kids dealing with this situation? What kind of relationship do your kids currently have with their mother? thx... i´m going to check the co-parenting board... the kids are adapting alright... ... .well . . the relationship pretty good i guess . . you know . . in her kind of way. she does her best with what she´s got... i just have no idea what her next move is... i mean . . . she lives with her parents for god sake! with 4 kids and a dog well . . .we´ll see i guess |