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Here's the evidence:

-Knocked up with 1st child at age 16.

-Claimed that my grandfather "date raped" her, yet stayed with him for several more years and had another child (my mother) with him.

-Remarried an abusive narcissist and remained with him for his death almost fifty years later.

-Manipulates and guilt trips her children and grandchildren.

-Phoney/Lies

-Will create situations where one of her children will fight with another to gain attention.

-Helpless victim. Incapable of taking care of herself. Would rather play the victim than do anything constructive.

-Creates drama wherever she goes.

-Few friends. Won't keep in touch with the friends she has.

-Dramatic displays to get attention.

-Will exaggerate illnesses to get attention.

-Plays favorites with family members.

-Lifelong depression and anxiety.

Borderline Waif or just toxic? I've distanced myself from her. I hate to put this way because it's not very nice, but she's in poor health and I wish she would just die peacefully. She's put a strain on my family my entire life and it's only gotten worse since her health has deteriorated.

Hi Sweet tooth,

I’m so sorry you having to go through this. In answer to your question the attributes you list certainly are part of being a BPD, but as we all demonstrate a bit of narcistic behaviour to one extent or another, really need to know someone well to confidently diagnose.

Why is the diagnosis important to you right now ? Are there tricky memories or behaviour you are trying to square off ?  

Trying to make sense why I always seem to get involved with toxic women. I think my family has a lot to do with it.

I was involved with an uBPD woman for close to a year and she broke my heart. I'm trying to figure out why I tolerated the STs, flip-flopping, etc. Worse yet, I'm trying to figure out why I long for her and want her back. I'm a complete mess.