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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Herodias on May 07, 2016, 10:36:07 PM



Title: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Herodias on May 07, 2016, 10:36:07 PM
I recieved the paperwork this week that my STBX has filed with the courts. I've been trying to wrap my head around this... .Reading it over and over! Most of it is lies! He wants to modify the whole divorce and separation agreement. He wants me not to file on adultery (even though there were at least 3 women I can verify this past year and a half and remember one is pregnant), claim we have been separated since April (even though he was having sex with me and asking me to take him back in July and August which means the year starts then), he claims he can't afford to pay my alimony because he lost his position yet he now has a job making more money), he claims he lost my benefits when he lost his position in Feb. ( even though they were cancelled when he quit his job two weeks ago), he lied about his income, he wants me to accept lower alimony if any and pay him back for what I got already and he wants me to pay his lawyers fees! He now is in contempt of court for not paying my alimony this month and not supplying my health insurance... .Isn't that just incredibly narcissistic? It seems to me he's even manipulating and lying to his own lawyer. His lawyer didn't seem to know I had filed for divorce on him and found out when he filed this complaint with the courts that there is a divorce date in June. My husband knew a month ago. There's even more, but I won't bore you with the details- this is bad enough! My lawyer said - ridiculous. I just hope she's right. Should I be worried? I can't afford to be without the money, let alone pay him back! He just got a job with big earning potential. Unbelievable.


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Sunfl0wer on May 07, 2016, 10:48:17 PM
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My lawyer said - ridiculous. I just hope she's right. Should I be worried?

The legal board here is excellent with this stuff.

Why not post there?


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Herodias on May 07, 2016, 10:50:33 PM
Is that the divorce section?


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Sunfl0wer on May 07, 2016, 10:53:20 PM
Oh... .

The title actually is: Family law, divorce and custody

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=10.0

I read around everywhere.  The advice given there is excellent!

(In case u haven't been by)


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Herodias on May 07, 2016, 10:58:42 PM
Oh yes, thank you - I seem to get more feedback here... .I'll try it though- thank you!


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: gotbushels on May 08, 2016, 08:48:51 AM
That's a lot of paperwork. If you're trying to wrap your head around something that includes a hole the size of the grand canyon, I would take precautions 


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Hadlee on May 08, 2016, 09:45:21 AM
Maybe the fighting back isn't completely his doing - his lawyer could be controlling things.  Some lawyers are incredibly ruthless!


Title: Re: Trying to wrap my head around how far he will take things...
Post by: Herodias on May 08, 2016, 09:57:24 AM
I suppose you are right Busygal, particularly if he isn't getting the whole truth from him. This guy is a criminal lawyer as well and my lawyer can't figure out why he took this case. All I can guess is that his gf has police friends and maybe this is a friend of a friend of hers. He may be giving him a deal. My husband seems to think I have allot of money, at least that is what he told people. It is not the case, particularly now after I spent all of my money on him over the past 10 years. I feel conned : (