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Title: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: drummerboy5 on May 09, 2016, 08:18:35 AM So I woke up and checked my fb this am and noticed a few tagged pics and post pop up on my fb from my preg exBPD/npd. I looked and sure enough she unblocked me after months of being blocked and a month long silent treatment... She is over 7 months prego and I figured this day would come and she would try and throw a bait out to see if I would bite in it. I'm not going to reach out and I'm not going to mention that I know she unblocked me... I'm just going to carry on with my life...
My question is why after months of being silent and being blocked would she unblock me? Because she needs something? To make me feel guilty? To see if I notice? It's all a bunch of stupid control games in my opinion and I'm not doing down the road again. i see my T Wednesday so she'll be able to help my through any type of recycle. Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: Confused? on May 09, 2016, 10:14:05 AM She may have unblocked you to see what you were up to. To see if you have moved on or are positive and happy through your posts. It isn't uncommon at all. Also you can't block someone for 48 hours after you have unblocked them. So don't be surprised if she blocks you again.
Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: drummerboy5 on May 09, 2016, 11:00:00 AM She may have unblocked you to see what you were up to. To see if you have moved on or are positive and happy through your posts. It isn't uncommon at all. Also you can't block someone for 48 hours after you have unblocked them. So don't be surprised if she blocks you again. Thanks for your response. She can snoop all she wants as I have nothing to hide nor do I care. I was going to block her, but decided that would give her a reaction or it would let her knowi noticed so I'll just leave that issue alone lol. My T told me to stay quite so that's what I'll do and let my T know in a few days. Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: josephrl82 on May 09, 2016, 01:37:33 PM Being 7 months along maybe she figures it's time to try to reel you back in so she is not alone during the birth of the child. I know with my ex, she once gave me the ultimatum that I had to be with her or I could have no part of the pregnancy or birth. Hopefully your situation is different man! I know you want to be there, and maybe she's opening the door for that to happen even if you two aren't together anymore. Just don't let her pull you back into her destructive web just because of the baby.
Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: drummerboy5 on May 09, 2016, 01:44:37 PM Being 7 months along maybe she figures it's time to try to reel you back in so she is not alone during the birth of the child. I know with my ex, she once gave me the ultimatum that I had to be with her or I could have no part of the pregnancy or birth. Hopefully your situation is different man! I know you want to be there, and maybe she's opening the door for that to happen even if you two aren't together anymore. Just don't let her pull you back into her destructive web just because of the baby. I think you are right as my exBPD/npd and her family is all about Image and I'm sure my ex and her family doesn't want people to know she had another kid without the father around, but then again I could see them trying to blame me for abandoning her while pregnant. They cover her behaviors and addiction pretty well so the family doesn't appear to have issues lol Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: josephrl82 on May 09, 2016, 02:00:55 PM Being 7 months along maybe she figures it's time to try to reel you back in so she is not alone during the birth of the child. I know with my ex, she once gave me the ultimatum that I had to be with her or I could have no part of the pregnancy or birth. Hopefully your situation is different man! I know you want to be there, and maybe she's opening the door for that to happen even if you two aren't together anymore. Just don't let her pull you back into her destructive web just because of the baby. I think you are right as my exBPD/npd and her family is all about Image and I'm sure my ex and her family doesn't want people to know she had another kid without the father around, but then again I could see them trying to blame me for abandoning her while pregnant. They cover her behaviors and addiction pretty well so the family doesn't appear to have issues lol Ya, that's what I'm currently being accused of! Abandoning her! After ahe accused me of texting other girls, beat the crap out of me, left, and had a new guy 4 days later! And I abandoned HER! I think the best thing you can do is to make sure your fb post make it look like your happy and getting by just fine without her! Maybe post some of the sonogram pics to show that you are proud to be the father of your upcoming child. But that could backfire if it came to be that it turned out not to be yours as you had expressed your concern about before. Title: Re: i had tagged post and pics pop up on my fb from my exBPD/npd Post by: drummerboy5 on May 09, 2016, 02:32:13 PM Being 7 months along maybe she figures it's time to try to reel you back in so she is not alone during the birth of the child. I know with my ex, she once gave me the ultimatum that I had to be with her or I could have no part of the pregnancy or birth. Hopefully your situation is different man! I know you want to be there, and maybe she's opening the door for that to happen even if you two aren't together anymore. Just don't let her pull you back into her destructive web just because of the baby. I think you are right as my exBPD/npd and her family is all about Image and I'm sure my ex and her family doesn't want people to know she had another kid without the father around, but then again I could see them trying to blame me for abandoning her while pregnant. They cover her behaviors and addiction pretty well so the family doesn't appear to have issues lol Ya, that's what I'm currently being accused of! Abandoning her! After ahe accused me of texting other girls, beat the crap out of me, left, and had a new guy 4 days later! And I abandoned HER! I think the best thing you can do is to make sure your fb post make it look like your happy and getting by just fine without her! Maybe post some of the sonogram pics to show that you are proud to be the father of your upcoming child. But that could backfire if it came to be that it turned out not to be yours as you had expressed your concern about before. Ive got a lot of pics public of my daughter I have custody of and pics of me with friends. I don't want her to know that I know she unblocked me lol... I'm just going to stay quite and wait until it's DNA test time |