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Title: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: married21years on May 12, 2016, 09:38:34 AM knowing that i have been lied to and cheated on has given me closure.
knowing that this person has caused all this and lied and cheated on me, whilst painting me black has let me walk away the truth sets us free. she is sleeping with my best friend. her best friends husband, her best friend and other married men! i know all this now and she dosnt know i know! divorce time! |iiii i am free with no obligation and going NC for the rest of my life! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: Lucky Jim on May 12, 2016, 01:55:32 PM Sorry to hear, after 21 years of marriage. Sometimes parting ways is best for all. LuckyJim
Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: married21years on May 13, 2016, 02:52:12 AM Sorry to hear, after 21 years of marriage. Sometimes parting ways is best for all. LuckyJim thx bud 22 years, but it was one way all me giving and her rewriting history and taking i am free just the divorce to go! Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: Fr4nz on May 13, 2016, 03:03:06 AM Wow, sorry man!
Anyway, don't blame yourself, BPDs are often prone to such behaviours. Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: married21years on May 13, 2016, 04:02:10 AM the truth has set me free from any blame,
i got access to exatly what she was saying recently apparently i was crap in bed ROFLMFAO lol she has painted me black and made me the villan to her victim and her knight in shinning armer she wants to rescue her just wants sex she is 40 he is 64 yo fat and bald hahaha thanks for taking this posinous harpy of my hands so she is making him jealous with a 52yo married man. her life is just one big train wreck, i am just sitting back eating popcorn she had everything, she has lost it. divorce time! i have a wonderfull woman that genuinly loves me and adores me let the good times role! :) :) Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: Sunfl0wer on May 13, 2016, 05:21:51 AM Excerpt the truth has set me free from any blame, :sign_attn: While it sounds like you were unaware of many things about her, there is also a dynamic within the relationship of you two that is likely dysfunctional even when you put her cheating behaviors aside. At some point you may want to take a look at your role in how this relationship served you and 'functioned' for you. 22 years is a long time. I imagine it will take some time to process. Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: married21years on May 13, 2016, 06:05:02 AM Excerpt the truth has set me free from any blame, :sign_attn: While it sounds like you were unaware of many things about her, there is also a dynamic within the relationship of you two that is likely dysfunctional even when you put her cheating behaviors aside. At some point you may want to take a look at your role in how this relationship served you and 'functioned' for you. 22 years is a long time. I imagine it will take some time to process. once i became aware i adressed it i was meet with lies the vortex of confusion created by the lies kept me trying to help. the truth has set me free i take no blame trying to honestly trying to help someone! Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: once removed on May 13, 2016, 06:08:28 AM twenty two years is a long time to know anyone, let alone to be married to them. theres a lot of history there.
you may feel a sense of relief right now, and i wouldnt blame you, but finding out about this behavior behind your back cant feel good. dont hesitate to feel all of your feelings. we are here for you every step of the way. Title: Re: knowing the truth has given me closure Post by: married21years on May 19, 2016, 06:47:13 AM twenty two years is a long time to know anyone, let alone to be married to them. theres a lot of history there. you may feel a sense of relief right now, and i wouldnt blame you, but finding out about this behavior behind your back cant feel good. dont hesitate to feel all of your feelings. we are here for you every step of the way. the pain is emense but i am working through it and moving on thx all |