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Listening to some tunes and I got thinking.

Imagine the number of people out there in a relationship with a pwBPD who are just starting to experience confusion.  Those poor souls have a long road ahead of them, yet they don't know it right now.

Look at all of us on this board that have lived through the nightmare.  Some are on the other side of it, some are just beginning to put the pieces together and others are half way through.

There is NOTHING like feeling the pain of being involved with a pwBPD, NOTHING at all.  It's a long, tough road to get us back to the people we once were.  But the beauty of it... .we end up becoming an even better version of the person we were before, providing we work on ourselves.  That's kinda something to look forward to, huh?  A new and improved version of ourselves?  I'll accept that with a smile on my face :)

Hail the gift that comes from Borderline Personality Disorder |iiii

Hear, hear busygall!  |iiii  And I'm working on mining that gift for everything it's got :)

at the time it could never have happened quickly enough, but the thought sustained me every single day. without it, everything would have been wasted, there would have been no purpose, my suffering would have been in vain. it is very difficult at the time though, to see such a powerful and intense loss as a gift.

Hey Busygall, great words. I'm just shy of a year with my BPD/NPD ex wife out of my life. The toxic confusion of having a BPD/ NPD in your life than the soul crushing experience of the discard. Now I feel the personal growth, take ownership for what is mine and letting her have what she owns. I get strength out of reading people's heart wrenching stories. It might sound selfish but I also truly shed tears for there pain. It's like a poor soul, shaking and rum sick walking in to his first AA meeting and the strength that person gives to people with long term sobriety to " remember when". Than the helping hand the new commer gets. To me these boards are like an AA meeting. We are Kicking the addiction of a BPD/ NPD R/s , all are welcome and we are here to share our story. Our experience, strength and hope.

You know, I find myself wanting my ex sometimes and that feeling quickly goes away then I start feeling sorry for the next man. He will be lied too. He will be passive aggressively put down by her. Have you noticed how they have the know how to push you to the point of breaking then claim you were mean to them? It's odd.

The nicer I was to her, the worse she said treated her. The more I was there for her, the more she said I wasn't there and than she would say, it's a good thing my family is there for me. In 3 years I was wreck of a man. She's 10 months into another r/s. I hope she doesn't do to him what she did to me. Her past history is locked in a vault so I don't know if I'm the only one she emotionally and mentally abused. she sure made it clear how terrible of a person I was and no one ever treated as bad as I did. When I would ask what I did that was so terrible, she would say do I have to get my list out.