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Why is it that my bf's mother refers to her room as a dungeon that she is trapped in? She acts like my bf and my bf and i keep her prisoner in it. When my bf and my bf and i def. dont... .she can come and go as she pleases. We try and he tries to explain this to her repeatedly when she makes the comments she makes, acts out when we tell her not a dungeon its her room and asks us why she has to stay in her dungeon. The only things we ask she follow about the apartment is that she not turn on my boyfriends tv in the living room  (she has her own decent size tv in her room) til 11am so we can get some sleep as its a 1 bedroom apartment (she has bedroom and we either sleep on the couch or about 10 ft away in the dining room on a bed that is bfs sisters that she will be taking back next month), Keep the blinds closed til we wake (the huge window lets in a lot of light in tiny apartment) and 11:01am and after when she watches my bf tv that she keep the volume at 7 or less so tv dont wake us up. I just always been curious as to why she continues to view it as and call her room a dungeon a lot of the times. Even though other times she calls it her room. Is she being a drama queen, is she being a childish adult or is she mentally stunted or is this typical BPD or what is this? We arent asking too much why does she see things way does? Just confused need feedback help etc. Thanks in advance everyone.

Not to triangulate as her rescuer, but the living situation may be a hard adjustment for her. She sounds like a Waif in need of rescue. What is her history, has she exhibited odd behaviors in the past, back before you met her son?

It sounds like a stressful situation for you all. Have you tried finding a validation target with her? Validate the valid, invalidate the invalid.

Yes... .She has exhibiting odd behaviors, ways of being, dressing (well if u consider a women wearing mens clothes mostly even mens underwear etc), etc. and this started way before I met her son and at least the last 30-45 years. She has had over 8 yrs of living in this place (1 bedroom apartment) and things being how they are. So this living situation is nothing new for her and she has always had the bedroom while my bf goes without a room of his own. Ya she does sound like a Waif but I've read the Lawson book and she sounds like all the other types too. We have tried validating that which can be validated and refraining from validating the invalid. She is so severely BPD (possibly bipolar and 3 other pd's, diabetic, etc) she gets worse with each passing month and yr. It is def. a stressful situation indeed. Its hard to watch and hear about her mentally emotionally verbally abusing towards her son (& go threw what she throws at me and how she treats me too). Not to mention all other stuff mentioned in my other posts here on the forum.

(p.s. getting forum error msgs and not being to get forum to post... .so if this reply post more than once sorry plz delete duplicates)