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Title: How sweet is this? Post by: JerryRG on June 01, 2016, 02:34:54 PM So I've been thinking
How sweet it is to have a beautiful baby boy and not have to deal with momma and now that I know the truth I can release her. I think I let her go a long long time ago, I believe I was more upset that I failed to change her and my ego wouldn't accept defeat. The thing that bothered me most was why I got involved with her in the first place knowing what I knew and what I was up against. Reality was almost certain defeat. My life has never been better and if I keep working it can only improve. My exgf won't change except to go criss cross the Borderline of her disorder. She's no longer my issue to figure out, help or give too. I pray for her to be happy and maybe one day she might me. I read an Alanon devotion today that said, an expectation is a gurenteed resentment. I have a son and just for today we have each other and that is all any of us really have. Hope everyone recovers soon and I wish you all the best and thank you all for helping me. Title: Re: How sweet is this? Post by: Turkish on June 02, 2016, 12:24:26 AM I read an Alanon devotion today that said, an expectation is a gurenteed resentment. Ths reminds me of something my T said, "I sense that a lot of your anger stems from expecting her to be who she is not.". I have a son and just for today we have each other and that is all any of us really have. Be there for you kid, JRG. And work on being as healthy as you can. Though my Ex is high functioning, there are a lot of subtle behaviors which are damaging, despite her new found self awareness. Many people have told me that I need to take care of myself better, as I am the best chance of the kids turning out ok. My Ex and her FOO are a lot of inertia to overcome. To be honest, I have FOO issues, too. Title: Re: How sweet is this? Post by: heartandwhole on June 02, 2016, 06:59:01 AM Hi JerryRG,
I sense the gratitude in your post, which is probably my favorite feeling. Keep dipping into that thankful and compassionate heart, and I think it's guaranteed that your life will change in even more positive ways. |iiii Thank you for sharing. Good news like this is always appreciated on the boards! heartandwhole Title: Re: How sweet is this? Post by: JerryRG on June 02, 2016, 07:07:43 AM Thank you Turkish and heartandwhole
I've finally seperated myself from my BPDgf, it took a while and a lot of difficult work and most of all good councel from you people here. My son is my son, she can never take that away. I will just do my best one day at a time and keep working to be the best daddy I can be and the best person I can be. That's all I can do. Yes and gratitude is such a gift. "Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others." - Marcus Tullius Cicero God bless all of you and bpdfamily, I cannot thank you enough. |