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Title: Playing the victim Post by: Raspberry on June 09, 2016, 11:13:06 AM After a few days of silence just received a text saying he's been discharged from crisis and 'hoping I'm keeping well' like brilliant that you're feeling better as you've had people around you to help pick up the pieces whilst you don't even consider how hurt I've been. A week ago we were in love now it's this formality. I'm not replying bit I'd actually live him to realise that i'm self harming every evening to cope with my feelings.
I will not play the victim too Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: Mutt on June 09, 2016, 12:05:05 PM Hi Raspberry,
I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how invalidating that would feel when we're knee deep in pain and our exe's are emotionally detached with texts. It's tough when we have a history there - a romantic one . How is your support network with family and friends? Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: HoneyB33 on June 09, 2016, 12:55:12 PM I totally went through this too. My ex swinging left and right with being with me. And then all I got in the end was her telling me in this formal way that she was done and "hopes we can be friends in the future". It's such BS. And it cuts to the core of yourself, and your worth. You pour out everything for a person, and they want to make you feel like you're the dilutional one, and nothing more than a wrapper to throw in the trash. Like they just enjoyed the ice-cream cone, and are done. It's so gross. I'm sorry you are experiencing this. TRY to realize it really isn't personal. Most of the time the only thing we ever did "wrong" in these relations was try to take care of ourselves.
Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: Raspberry on June 09, 2016, 02:06:25 PM Now he's just said thst there's no one else he'd rather be in a dysfunctional relationship with.
I must keep strong and not hold onto this false hope x Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: HoneyB33 on June 09, 2016, 03:02:22 PM Sounds like a BPD to me. "I want to burn this ship to the ground with you in it <3". "Oh that's oh so strangely romantic!"... .And then they tie you to mass and jump out at the last second. Yayyyy... .
Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: Meili on June 09, 2016, 04:05:07 PM Raspberry,
I'm so glad that you don't want to be in a dysfunctional r/s with him or anyone for that matter! Would it benefit you to not read his text messages anymore? Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: Raspberry on June 09, 2016, 04:31:13 PM Raspberry, I'm so glad that you don't want to be in a dysfunctional r/s with him or anyone for that matter! Would it benefit you to not read his text messages anymore? A new phone with a new number happens to be on the way, what timing Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: once removed on June 09, 2016, 05:11:35 PM good for you, Raspberry. way to honor and protect you, and your recovery |iiii
Title: Re: Playing the victim Post by: Mutt on June 09, 2016, 06:21:16 PM Self protection will help speed up your recovery. Hang in there.
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