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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: byfaith on June 10, 2016, 01:31:22 PM



Title: why did you stop talking to me last night?
Post by: byfaith on June 10, 2016, 01:31:22 PM
This is the first text I get today at 2:00pm.

I could give her the logical answer of I was tired from working out in the sun all day and you had a bad headache and jaw ache from TMJ and we were not really having much conversation anyway... .


do I answer logic or ignore?  I would say that she is trying to project some kind of crap onto me. We came home from MC yesterday at 12:30 and she didn't do anything but sit in a recliner the rest of the day. In some way she is going to blame me for shutting down last night. I have to keep my composure.

I am trying to live in peace with her for the time being


Title: Re: why did you stop talking to me last night?
Post by: byfaith on June 10, 2016, 01:45:30 PM
ok I tested it... .I texted back simply

"I didn't"

Wasn't sure if I was going to get a lecture text or what

she responded simply "ok"



Title: Re: why did you stop talking to me last night?
Post by: byfaith on June 10, 2016, 02:05:29 PM
OK... .

After MC yesterday we came home and she plopped herself down in a chair and I went about my business, painting the house (outside), dealing with mechanic regarding vehicle with AC issue that she might be driving out of state this weekend, mowing grass etc. Busting my butt all afternoon.

I wasn't feeling resentment I was just thinking how can someone just waste their life and health away. It's sad. I was determined yesterday not to let the situation make me angry. I even asked her to post something on craigslist. She could not even do that for me ( too tired kept falling asleep)

then when I did all that I went for about an hour to our church nursing home ministry for about hour and half and got home around 8:30. The first time I have done this in over a year.

We just were not in a talkative mood the rest of evening. I mentioned a couple of things to her and she seemed despondent. Thus I really never "quit" talking to her. We never really had any meaningful conversation going in the first place. She wasn't feeling good and I was tired from a long day. To be honest I wonder sometimes if she doesn't make up headaches and other stuff at night to avoid other things ( I don't know?)