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So she asks me if I knew who's phone case was in our sons diaper bag... .it's been in his bag for months and no I knew it was there but I didn't bother it or take it out.

Here's the text exchange:

Exgf:

Hey does this clear and pink phone case belong to someone u know? Lol it ain't mine and I'm like hmm maybe it's one of  Jerry's friends idk but just trying to find the owner

Me:

No I haven't seen it before, I did notice it but I don't know who's it is

Exgf:

Bet it's my future sister in laws case haha... .ok.  Well we gonna relax now... got church in Am

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Lol, yeah she just loves to try and make me jealous.  Not working honey... .so sad she's just not happy

Manipulation?

If someone is truly happy in their relationship do they need to broadcast it?

That's just so mean... .I know it bothers you. Somehow you need to set some boundaries if possible. The problem is that if you do she may act out. This stinks. Are you two married or divorced by the way? It could also be that she is just fishing to see if you are dating someone... .I swear mine suggested I was living with my parents and I was dating to his lawyer, just to find out the answer. It's wild how they can find out things or let you know things in such a manipulative ways. I am not sure if they need to broadcast it to their ex, but I suppose some do... .in this case  it is just to upset you. I think it's that part of them that like to create drama and push buttons.

Thanks Blue

She's not a happy camper and yes she's looking for clues into my private life. She's a child so I just let it go. I gave her my soul, and I do hope one day she realizes just 1% of what I gave for her.

I won't hold my breath.

I had a therapist a few years ago who told me that one day my exgf will need me, on that day she will realize I am truly gone. Sadly that scenario has played itself out so many times I had nothing left.

We were engaged twice but nothing more

I guess you are lucky you didn't marry her. Sometimes I feel like we are on a high horse thinking they will regret it. I suppose there will always be with people who say they will miss us when we are gone or they will need us one day, but I don't know. It seems they always have someone else. We probably did allot more than some people would have, I know I did and had people tell me I did. He used to ask "no one else would ever put up with me would they?" and I would say, "no".  lol  But he proved me wrong. Is he happy, no- he told me he will never be happy. I think he thinks he fits better with someone younger than him. He thinks because they worked together they were a better fit too. I think he is enjoying the attention he thinks a baby will get. I think he is starting to see that lots of people have kids and it's not some special  unique thing that will get him all of the attention he wants though. I hate to say it, but I still see what is happening on Facebook. He is so obviously trying to get attention. He keeps making at least 3 new "friends" a day. There are allot of people with kids. His sister just had a baby too, so I think he thinks he will get his parents attention now. It's kind of sad really. He is trying to be "normal" and I am convinced that is part of the problem with me is that we lost our child and I had a hysterectomy and that was it-no kids. I am not much of a kid person though, they say when it is your own it's different. I suppose, but I can't even go there, since I have not and will never at this point. I think he had it in his head that this was what he needed to do. He told me he didn't want kids when we were together, so he was either mirroring me or he meant it. I know he always told me he didn't want to pass on his disorder to anyone else. His Mom told him to get a vasectomy. lol  I think somewhere along the line he decided i was too old for him and came up with all kinds of reasons to not be with me. He also kept asking me if I was sad we lost our baby. He asked me once if we could have a baby, way after the surgery. I thought that was mean. He actually told his friends that asked how we met and ended up married, that I got pregnant and he had to marry me! It was humiliating! He would do it right in front of me! I wonder what they are thinking now that he has another gf pregnant! I bet he will say the same about her if he marries her! I really how long he will last with her. This is my torture part... .I want to think that no one else will put up with him as we originally said. Thing is, there are other people that are as kind and caring and messed up as us! 

I am sorry Blue

I know things don't turn out the way we want sometimes, a good friend told me that God never asked her to release something without giving her something so much more valuable. For me I have my sanity and I've found a new life through AA and Alanon, I was a religious person but now I'm spiritual. Nothing can give me the peace of mind and serenity I've found in my relationship with God. I cannot stress this enough.

I started Alanon to help understand my exgf, they bumped me into AA and my life is completely transformed. And I'm just beginning :)

Thanks... .that is what I hear... .one door closes another opens. I am glad you are doing well. I have been to alanon and it was really helpful to me as AA is helpful to you I am sure... .Great job working in you! My step-brother has been going to AA for over 25 years and is very involved. He totally believes in it. Glad it is working for you!