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I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, but here I am. Last October I decided put my foot down and confronted a coworker that was stalking me. Early on I thought it was innocent enough that she just happened to enjoy walking at that particular location, etc. Gradually her behavior became more frequent and less covert, her presence became more noticeable and I'd constantly catch her trailing me around outside of work. In total it lasted a duration of 11 months. In addition, she started a smear campaign among mutual friends while her efforts to charm me continued. I told her to leave me alone and that worked for a short period, but now she's kicked her smear campaign into overdrive and has her family harassing and threatening me physically as well. It seems the closer I get to processing what happened, the situation gets more intense. I'm now questioning myself whether I should move very far away or get a RO.

That's absolutely insane. If the harassment stops, I'll let you know. Apparently mine is sending me fake FB profile requests, checking out my LinkedIn, etc. Nowhere near as bad as yours, but it's still annoying and somewhat frightening.

I think you might want to look into getting an RO. Your situation is extreme.

Hey hash89

I'm sorry that you're going through such an unusual situation. Confronting behaviour like that is difficult. I'd feel quite tired, bothered, and fearful if someone actively campaigned against my right to privacy. This is made worse as the behaviour has gone on almost a year and more people get involved in the various ways you describe.

Could you please describe more about the nature of these physical threats? Would you mind describing more about the nature of your association with this person?

I look forward to hearing more of your story. I hope you can draw courage to do whats right, healthy, and what's necessary to maintain your safety:)

This breakup lasted twice as long as the actual relationship. After years of stalking and leading me on, she finally did it. It took me moving the next town over but I think that pushed her past the brink. My question is, should I expect more attempted recycles in the future? I'm afraid if I start frequenting that area again she'll try to pull me back in.

It's been a year since you last posted.  What happened since then and what,  specifically, is going on now that at can support you with? What did she do?

We were originally co-workers. What happened was that she found my blog and was leaving ambiguous comments so I never knew for sure if it was her. The same time she was calling our work place when she was off pretending to be a customer asking to speak to someone from my department, when I would work my shifts alone. She  constantly walks and drives by my house, goes to places I frequent and either watches me from afar pretending to be on her phone or flants some new guy in front of me while badmouthing me. I finally told her it was over and gave her a list of reasons why, I was met with her apologizing for everything and she tried to kill herself. Afterwards she threatened that she'd harm my siblings if I went back to work; telling people I tried to rape her and her dad who unknownly was my neighbor the whole time threatening to kill me if I got a restraining order. since then its been about a year of her threatening to kill herself if I don't talk to her then threatening me, etc. She's stopped after I moved but just looking at the nature of personality disorders, does it seem plausible that she's done yet?