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Title: This boundery thing is tough Post by: JerryRG on June 15, 2016, 06:09:37 PM Trying to explain to my exgf I don't want to hear about her life and anything else about her, that's it!
Of coarse my sponsor told me exactly what to do and why I fail and then get upset at myself and her. When she starts in on her problems I walk away, I can't walk away from texts, I didn't realize until today (again) how fearful I am to upset her... .I compromised so many times in our relationship to avoid the lashing out and breaking more eggs shells that I have shut down. I simply do not wish to speak to her, today she called about our son all happy and this just after getting the ro? Doesn't she realize how the judge could perceive her choices and actions and how this effects our son? How she's doing the same things to this guy she did to me and who knows how many other guys? She's completely out of touch with reality, she text me a few minutes ago asking if I would keep my son overnight so she could go to a church thing so she could grow closer to God. I said, I DON'T CARE IF YOU GET CLOSER TO GOD! it's none of my business! Back off already! Just ticks me off she cannot shut up and seeks my approval or attention. That's what your new bf is for! Lol. Someone shoot me... .lol I swear I'm not reading any more of her texts and just saying when I'm dropping my son off. I'm sick of this crap Title: Re: This boundery thing is tough Post by: vortex of confusion on June 15, 2016, 07:52:14 PM I feel your pain!
I had one of those conversations with stbx today. I have walked away, flipped out, ignored him, and stopped him mid sentence. It feels like nothing I say or do will get him to understand that I do NOT want to hear about his life unless it has to do with our 4 kids or a job as he is currently unemployed. It is almost comical how he just can't seem to keep his mouth shut. He had to tell me about planning to go to a gay pride parade. I don't care if he goes but for some reason he said he wanted to run it by me and discuss it with me first. Um, WHY? Chances are that she isn't going to hear you even if you tell her that you are sick of it. It is up to you to keep looking for ways to set and keep your boundaries. As much as I wish stbx would knock it off with telling me stuff, I know that he isn't going to stop. We can be hanging out with the kids and he finds a way to sneak crap in on me. It is so painful. Title: Re: This boundery thing is tough Post by: JerryRG on June 15, 2016, 08:05:01 PM No they don't hear, like you said, ask nice, beg, yell, do hand stands, walk a tight rope, set yourself on fire and still... .Guess what I did today? Me me me me me me me... .
Does it sound like I'm upset? Lol Dear god why didn't I heed the red-flag red-flag s I'm listening now! Help? Anyone? Anyone? Help? Lol I'm just tired |