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Went to pick my son up this morning and his mother asked me if I was coming into her apartment. I just pretended not to hear her and she didn't mention it again. She said her bf was flipping out because I was there picking up my son at her place rather than the police dept as we have since the po went into effect.

The exgf is showing no respect for her bf and laughs that he is jealous of me. She said she just tells him to do "whatever" then laughs. Poor guy is getting his share of insensitive bs from her.

I mean I don't care about either of them buy it is amazing to watch.

She said he's just going to have to used to it... . 

She also sent me a screenshot from her fb where her mother responded to her inquiry about "witchcraft".  My exgf asked if wichcraft is real because she is now doomed?

Her mother responded with "you always put the dumbest things on fb"  few months ago my exgf said she wanted to take a dirt nap? Can't be good sleeping in the ground.

Is she losing control again?

From keeping up with more than a few of your posts, I feel confident you already know the answer to your question.  She has never been in control... .and if it has appeared that way it was only a façade.  I hope you're doing well.   :)

Thank you drained1996

I am doing extremely well, got my 2 year AA medallion last night. And was thinking today about why my exBPDgf asked me to come inside her apartment yesterday, her bf knew I was going to pick up my son so I believe she was using me to make her bf jealous and control him.? Maybe

I do notice something else as well, when I was living with my ex I was taking care of my son from the time I got off work until bedtime. I believe my exgfs bf is taking this role now because when he's not around she cannot deal with my son.

She starts getting psychotic and says crazy things.

Oh well, my sponsor told me she was just using me... .isn't that what pwBPD do?

I'm proud of you for your AA accomplishment, as I know that is a tough personal burden to overcome.  Kudos to you for taking care of yourself, even in a time of other personal turmoil in your life (exBPD). 

While we can never understand our exBPD's intentions on most things, I would have to say yes, inviting you inside was odd given the circumstances.  Maybe she felt uncomfortable, and to make herself "feel" better, she wanted others to feel some form of discomfort.  We'll never really know, because I doubt she knows. 

Keep in line with what you are doing, and I suggest to keep any communication between you two simply about your son.  Given that you must have some form of communication because of you son... .remember boundaries.  Keep them and stay strong!   *)

Thanks drained1996

I try to keep our conversations about our son only, she tries to hook me in for attention and she's innapprotpiate asking questions and divulging way too much information about her life and bf.

I do have brief conversations with her to gain a sense of where she's at, like yesterday she told me she in NOT mentally ill and she just didn't understand what she needed to get well.

Funny thing is that everyone who knows her, outside her mentally ill friends, know she's very sick.

She's an alcoholic, drug addict, child of an alcoholic, and BPD, I think she has traits of narcissism and she's formally diagnosed Bipolar and ADD.

Guess she's not aware of her illnesses?

Don't matter to me, my son is my priority, he can be saved from a life of disfunction.

Jerry, this is suicide ideation.  A "dirt nap" is a reference to death and being buried.

Congratulations on your 2 year anniversary. I'm fairly certain that my ex dumps her kid onto her parents... .and then complains that her dad acts like the grandchild is "his little girl." Talk about wanting it both ways... . 

Hello C. Stein

I kinda figured thar but she's smart enough to not to come right out and say she's going to kill herself.

She put something interesting on fb a few days ago and actually sent me a screenshot.

Are witchcraft spells, like real? I'm a bit scared right now. I'm doomed.

No idea what brought this out of her, I know she had a friend who was using voodoo dolls on me, right after my son was born.

She has some interesting friends

Depends on what you believe in. 


Don't let it get to you Jerry.  You create your own reality, don't let others do it for you.

I apologize C. Stein

This is what she wrote on her fb:

"Are witchcraft spells, like real? I'm a bit scared right now. I'm doomed."

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She comes up with some strange things

Ahhh, OK ... .  :) lol