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Title: I messaged her... Post by: Confused? on June 28, 2016, 11:52:45 AM I don't know why. 2 years out. 9 months no contact. She isn't with my replacement anymore. She is with someone else now. I know she isn't happy and never will be. I have made so much progress over these two years. I just wish I was able to find someone like she so easily does. I'm very alone. My friends are all married. My family is torn apart. I am happy with myself but I have some very hard days. I did so much for her. I was a shoulder to lean on. I was there for her when she was feeling down. Now I have no one... .
Title: Re: I messaged her... Post by: Meili on June 28, 2016, 12:13:17 PM Hi Confused!
It saddens me that you feel that you don't have anyone. I feel like that quite often, so I have some idea how you must be feeling. It can be really hard watching someone that we love move on to the next person while we are still in recovery. That's natural. In my case, it triggers my old feelings of abandonment. How are you feeling about reaching out to her? Title: Re: I messaged her... Post by: Confused? on June 28, 2016, 12:24:07 PM Hi Confused! It saddens me that you feel that you don't have anyone. I feel like that quite often, so I have some idea how you must be feeling. It can be really hard watching someone that we love move on to the next person while we are still in recovery. That's natural. In my case, it triggers my old feelings of abandonment. How are you feeling about reaching out to her? To be honest I feel indifferent. I don't care if she responds, ignores, or never even sees it. I recently started talking to a girl I met. We shared a lot of stuff with eachother. Stuff I never told anyone. Stuff she never told anyone. It was very nice to have someone to talk to and relate to and understand what eachother are going through. But recently she has gone cold. It seems she is pushing me away just like my ex started doing while she was replacing me. I guess I just felt triggered. Back to the "what's wrong with me" stage. Title: Re: I messaged her... Post by: SoMadSoSad on June 28, 2016, 12:26:14 PM Hi Confused! It saddens me that you feel that you don't have anyone. I feel like that quite often, so I have some idea how you must be feeling. It can be really hard watching someone that we love move on to the next person while we are still in recovery. That's natural. In my case, it triggers my old feelings of abandonment. How are you feeling about reaching out to her? To be honest I feel indifferent. I don't care if she responds, ignores, or never even sees it. I recently started talking to a girl I met. We shared a lot of stuff with eachother. Stuff I never told anyone. Stuff she never told anyone. It was very nice to have someone to talk to and relate to and understand what eachother are going through. But recently she has gone cold. It seems she is pushing me away just like my ex started doing while she was replacing me. I guess I just felt triggered. Back to the "what's wrong with me" stage. Try posting in the build relationship subforum Title: Re: I messaged her... Post by: Confused? on June 28, 2016, 12:41:57 PM Hi Confused! It saddens me that you feel that you don't have anyone. I feel like that quite often, so I have some idea how you must be feeling. It can be really hard watching someone that we love move on to the next person while we are still in recovery. That's natural. In my case, it triggers my old feelings of abandonment. How are you feeling about reaching out to her? To be honest I feel indifferent. I don't care if she responds, ignores, or never even sees it. I recently started talking to a girl I met. We shared a lot of stuff with eachother. Stuff I never told anyone. Stuff she never told anyone. It was very nice to have someone to talk to and relate to and understand what eachother are going through. But recently she has gone cold. It seems she is pushing me away just like my ex started doing while she was replacing me. I guess I just felt triggered. Back to the "what's wrong with me" stage. Try posting in the build relationship subforum Well I wasn't trying to build a relationship with her. She made it clear that she had her own problems and she couldn't date. I honestly don't even know if I would date her since I have dealt with the whole "problems" thing before with my exBPDgf. It was just nice to have someone to talk to when I was feeling down. I really never had anything like that in my life. This site is a great place but you can't just post everything you feel every moment you feel it. If that makes sense? |