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This will be my second post as I'm just trying to get answers and understand what is going on with my ex fiance we have been together 7 years and have three children together recently she has decided she wasn't happy anymore like she has in the past and she wanted to move out which she just did recently. She has become a completely different person overnight she has gone from a stay at home mom of three that loved to bake with the kids to a partier that wants to live her life free and not tied down she has gone through this before but never this bad she placed a restraining order on me before I got home from away just after telling me she wanted another baby with me and loved and misses me she has gone wild seems like she has a different personality talking different acting different the whole 9 yards and says she wants nothing to do with me anymore and her family is feeding into it saying she's doing the right thing. I'm supposed to have the children Friday - Sunday but agreed to have them an extra day so she could move but I learned from my family that she was out partying all weekend instead of moving I'm really confused. What is going on with her?

I honestly have no idea what is going on with this lady, it sounds like a very dramatic change.

But - what about you, how are you feeling? Are you anxious? If so how can you change that.

People are on this board to listen & help you.

I'm feeling hurt confused physicaly sick and vomiting I have every emotion and feeling running through me right now I just don't understand how someone can just drop someone and be so cold and cut them out of their life like nothing she doesn't want to be a mother or a partner anymore all of a sudden.

I've seen the same kind of behavior with my ex. My ex was married, and I was seeing her while her husband was away in another state. Things got serious (or so I thought) with us very quickly. We had started talking about planning a future together. She had been married for six years and was the mother of two young children. I guess it should have been a red flag for me that she could even consider leaving her husband and children for a man she hardly knew, but she had me convinced that her love for me was that strong. At any rate, the husband wasn't happy at all and chose to lash out at me. I ended up losing my job. He accused me of brainwashing his wife and turning her against him, which wasn't the case. My biggest crime was being dumb enough to believe her when she told me she didn't love him anymore and wanted to leave him. I got the impression that their marriage had always been a relatively happy one up until that point. Like you, the husband was probably dumbfounded at the sudden change in his wife, that she could just walk away from everything. My guess is that the only way his brain could process what was happening was to believe that another man was seducing his innocent wife and trying to steal her from him. I was just as mystified by her behavior as he was, but I had to pay for it big time. Whatever her obsession with me was, it went away as mysteriously and as quickly as it came. I put everything on the line for her and lost it all, only to watch her walk away. I tell this story because your ex fiancé's erratic behavior is reminiscent of my ex's. And like you, I feel that I'll never understand.