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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Larmoyant on July 05, 2016, 08:21:10 PM



Title: Scared to start my life over
Post by: Larmoyant on July 05, 2016, 08:21:10 PM
It’s been a 7 month break-up. I stayed away even though part of me was screaming to get back to him. It’s been a huge struggle, but it seems as if it is finally over and communication between us has stopped. I now need to start focusing on myself, but my life is in such ruins I’m scared to. Scared to interact, scared to try. I feel like a failure. I let him come in and literally bulldoze my life. Has anyone else been so far down they’re scared to get back up?


Title: Re: Scared to start my life over
Post by: Herodias on July 05, 2016, 10:14:33 PM
Totally! That's why I stayed in it for so long. I'm finally doing better a year and a half out. It took 6 months to accept it was over. That's why it's all about me now. I'm not interested in starting over with a relationship yet. Just trying to enjoy my life. It's tough but you can do it. It's got to be better than it was, right?


Title: Re: Scared to start my life over
Post by: Leonis on July 05, 2016, 10:27:20 PM
Has anyone else been so far down they’re scared to get back up?

Yes, definitely. And I constantly sought ways for me to feel okay with moving on. I think I may have found it today when I saw her. Having a civil chat without her going emotional or defensive about things certainly helped out.

Only a few more weeks before I can be confident that she isn't pregnant. I'm ready to ditch her for someone more stable.

I think what I'm going to do is to ask that nurse out and be on my merry way.