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Title: Multiple attempts Post by: FigureIt on July 08, 2016, 08:06:40 AM I've bought a house to move out into. I close in 2 weeks. My uBPDbf knows. I've told hm multiple times I need space and to be away from this relationship. We both have attorneys because I put the down payment on our current house & I want it back, plus I want m our 2 dogs that I take care of. This morning he woke me to tell me he has told his attorney to give me 4 offers. The 1st 2 he didn't explain really othe than to say in #1 he gets the dogs. The 3rd one is he sells the current house & the 4th one is he pays off my car, pays my attorney fees, pays for any money I've put on my current house to but, takes my name of this house and if I choose to leave in 2, 3, 6 months I'll get all funds I put in back, no strings attached. He then asked if I had any questions. I said I didn't understand all the info in #1 & #2 offers. He was bothered by that question. He is not hearing me when I say I need out of his relationship & time away... . I don't know what to do, other than say "no" to offer #4 which will lead to a rage, painting me black, fog, etc... .
Title: Re: Multiple attempts Post by: Moselle on July 08, 2016, 08:23:38 AM Sorry to hear you are having difficulty with this. I've found the best thing to do in these cases is to decide what you want and don't budge. They eventually agree after trying to manipulate and rage
Money seems to always be an issue when it comes to Borderlines. Perhaps they associate their personal value with money. Because mine anyways seems to want it all. Maintenance is a nightmare. She wouldn't bat an eyelid at forcing me to pay all of my salary as maintenance. In fact, she convnced a high court judge to award her 90% of my monthly salary - bizarre. Of course I got it reduced to something reasonable on appeal, but the fact is she thinks she's entitled to it. Maybe in her mind, I do not exist - object constancy. If I'm not there, she doesn't recognise me as a person, except as a source of money. |