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Title: got my daughter back :)
Post by: married21years on July 18, 2016, 08:13:48 AM
Hi all

after 9 months NC with my daughter as she believed the Ex's lies.

i have started to reveal the truth gently, apparently i was not providing for my 19 yo daughter, but the reality was i always have

and no she is starting to see the truth and wants to come for a visit in the future

i am contacting the college directly and removing my ex's control of the situation

i also have one of my friends back as he is seeing the light.

and my relationship with my new partner is going well.

and i am recovering in CODA and there is hope and a future

:)
 |iiii  


Title: Re: got my daughter back :)
Post by: gotbushels on July 18, 2016, 09:26:49 AM
Hi married21years 

I'm glad to see that you're getting more contact with your daughter and she's opening herself up to dialogue. Things can be confusing for young adults and distinguishing truths and lies is a step forward for everyone. Congratulations on your progress with your CODA group, yes there is hope and future.  :)


Title: Re: got my daughter back :)
Post by: Mutt on July 18, 2016, 10:17:18 AM
Hi married21years,

*welcome*

I would feel sad and hurt if my daughter had not talked to me for almost a year. It sounds like things are moving in a positive direction for you. What did it take for your D and friend to see the light? Did they turn around on their own or did it take some coaxing?


Title: Re: got my daughter back :)
Post by: married21years on July 19, 2016, 06:39:19 AM
thx guys took some coxing

i got a IDK who to trust message

and i got a mum needs me more message.

but i just tried to persuade her to talk to people and find the truth

a lot have lies have been told by uwBPD, but my daughter is starting to see that

she may visit after the divorce