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Im convinced mine has very evil tendencies even though she portrays this adorable innocent girl.

That's why I'm here for support. I just worry about what she's capable of. She's VERY immature. Shortly before our first breakup (I took her back within a week due to her begging that we can fix things) her neighbor knocked on her door to ask her and her roommate to please lower the volume of their tv.

This enraged her... .Enraged her to the point where for a week she recorded the neighbor with her phone when she walked in and outside with her dog. She did this to prove the dog was over the complexes weight limit. The woman was faced with getting rid of her dog or eviction. She chose to leave. My ex was SO happy about this because she won.

When I asked if she felt a little bad about it she just laughed and said "No one ****s with me"

She also worships Whitey Bulger. To a level of weirdness. Calling him "a very sweet man"

Ex! Not my romantic partner anymore.   whew!

I'm actually detached completely and emotionally.

I'm just here for support in case she comes back with a vengeance. Not a fear I would take her back but just a major fear of the unknown with her.

I recall after my divorce was final and it is announced by printing the divorce in our local newspaper so businesses can adjust accordingly. I got a text from my exgf and she was laughing at the fact I was legally divorced.

I asked her how she found any humor in such a horrible event as divorce and the picture was removed. Red flag? Taking joy in others misery is something she practiced routinely.

She was mean, is mean and I suspect it's her foo issues and she did many other disgustingly hurtful things to me and others.

I'm not sure if "evil" is the right word for my ex, but I certainly know why he seems that way.

My ex described himself as having a "strong sense of justice."  That was true, I would say.  The part that makes him seem evil is that he has a strong and extremely self-referential sense of justice.

What I mean by that is that his personal experience of a situation is the sole indicator of good or evil.  If someone makes him feel bad, they are evil.  If someone makes him feel good, they are good.  He lacks the empathy to get out of his self-referential viewpoint and understand that an action that feels good to him may feel bad to someone else, and vice versa.  He basically makes himself the moral reference point for the entire universe, then exacts what he calls "justice" accordingly  Self-referential justice has a name:  revenge.

He used to talk about how his other ex-girlfriend deserved to die for what she did to him.  Using himself as the sole point of moral reference, he felt perfectly justified in saying this.  He currently feels threatened by me, and can't understand my behavior through any other lens than his own feelings.  My actions generally have nothing to do with him, but they make him feel bad, and that makes me deserve revenge.  It's a strange way of thinking, but that's the reality.  My friends don't understand my situation because they assume he has a broader view of justice than he actually does, and underestimate his self-referential thinking.  I have been around him enough that I do not.  I know he's capable of revenge, and probably evil.

My ex would say things like this too and I believe he has evil tendencies. When he was younger he used to go looking for people to beat up and admitted to enjoying it. However, he was arrested once for grievous bodily harm and got off by the skin of his teeth. He vowed to change his life from that day forward and did. He has a very good job now. I commend him for that, but the tendencies to hurt people are still there. He punched a man for talking to me and got into several arguments believing men were after me. He has many other AS behaviours too, e.g. drink driving almost every day and stealing despite the risk to his career. He once smashed a tile on the floor in a DIY shop because he wanted a sample. Walked out of the same store without paying saying he’d forgot. I am also convinced that he loves to hurt me as does my therapist who has told me he is capable of destroying me.