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Title: Crazy making Post by: bus boy on August 02, 2016, 10:49:53 AM As I recover from my NPD/BPD nightmare so many things come into my mind about this complex disorder. S9's mother is not engaging me personally or very rarely. The things she's doing, it just occurred to me seem to be things to get a reaction out of me, keep me engaged. I use to get mad at my self for letting her get to me but my boundaries got stronger. Her insisting s9 was failing in school, me checking with the teacher tells a totally different story, she also named someone else as s9's alternative contact incase he has a problem at day camp. My reaction is nothing, log and use it for court and continue on my contented way. So I feel these are her ways of trying to keep me engaged, crazy making.
Title: Re: Crazy making Post by: fromheeltoheal on August 02, 2016, 11:05:41 AM The things she's doing, it just occurred to me seem to be things to get a reaction out of me, keep me engaged. I use to get mad at my self for letting her get to me but my boundaries got stronger. And to a borderline, keep you attached; borderlines hate to lose an attachment, it's the worst thing that could happen, and you getting mad, if you showed that anger to her, was indication to her that the attachment was still in place. Good move on the boundaries! And of course she couldn't articulate it like that, it's just a feeling, a negative emotion, so let's poke bus boy to see if we get a reaction, which will make her feel better in the moment. You're no longer biting, and good for you! |