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Weird contact... .He apologized for not making a payment to me that he was supposed to for the divorce. I wrote my lawyer to tell her he did not pay. Then he wrote me again to ask if there was anyway to settle his lawsuit against me. He said "there is a baby in the picture"... .Weird way of putting it, huh? I told him that I had already tried to help him out by accepting less money from him but he said no. I told him not to play the child card with me because I had no empathy with that as he knows I do not like kids. I reminded him that his Mother and I suggested a vasectomy but he chose to make his own mistakes. I told him I don't care how many kids he has with his multiple women, but he made promises to me that he didn't keep and took advantage of me. He needed to think about this lawsuit because I tried to help him, but now he's making things worse. He said " thank you, I got what I needed"... , I said "you're welcome, as did I"... .I have no idea what he meant by that- but two can play at that game. When I said I got what I needed, I meant that I know he's still playing games, still looking for sympathy and angry he can't manipulate me. I know he's still crazy.

If he recalls that you don't sympathise with the child card and that you don't like kids and still does it then I can see how that's weird. Perhaps it's a bit simpler and transparent to see it as he just doesn't want to pay? I think that might make things a little less complicated Herodias.  :)

Yes, you are right... .I am sure he doesn't want to. Oddly enough, he ended up making additional prepayments to me! He told me he would always be on time moving forward. I suppose the gf has gone back to work. Maybe less pressure for him, but also, I told him I would have it done through the court system. He doesn't want to have to pay additional fees that way, so maybe that is why he is going to be on time. I have been told to have him do it that way anyway, since he will try all this is the future. I told him he really put me in a bad position when he ran off with these other woman... .I am sure he doesn't really care. Just all about what he wants or doesn't want.

That's great.  :)  I think that's a big step for him and it benefits both of you in terms of responsibilities. Well done Herodias.  |iiii