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Title: NC daily diary Post by: kc sunshine on August 06, 2016, 08:02:09 AM Anyone else counting their days? I'm on day 1. It helped me before to list some things I would do for the day that would focus on me:
1) go swimming if possible 2) eat a good breakfast 3) pray 4) call my mom 5) go to my going away party and laugh 6) plant my ex's memorial plant in my garden Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: UnforgivenII on August 06, 2016, 08:06:49 AM I would exclude the memorial plant
Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: UnforgivenII on August 06, 2016, 08:07:25 AM They do not deserve it.
Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: married21years on August 06, 2016, 08:38:36 AM is it a thistle
Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: kc sunshine on August 06, 2016, 03:21:50 PM hahaha, the plant was for me, for closure
So far so good on the plan-- breakfast, mom, swimming, praying and soon I'll be off to the party. When the sadness hits me, I try to lean into it and self-soothe. xoxo Other people that are in the early days of NC-- how is it going? is it a thistle Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: pjstock42 on August 06, 2016, 03:33:42 PM I'm over a month in to NC but often times it still feels like the discard just happened yesterday.
I never set a regimented routine for myself but there are some things I did very early on that I felt were necessary in helping me get on the right path of recovery. One thing was making a point to go to the same stores / restaurants / bars that we always went to together but by myself. This wasn't easy at all but only a few weeks after getting that out of the way, I find myself able to go to these places with much less difficulty. Basically, I just made a point of doing things that seemed out of my comfort zone such as forcing myself to be social & keeping the same routines that I had during the relationship but learning how to be comfortable doing these routines on my own. I hope you feel a bit better with each passing day - NC is difficult but I really do believe it's the only way to get on the path to true recovery from all of this. Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: JJacks0 on August 06, 2016, 08:08:43 PM I'm on day 7. The longest I've ever gone before was 9 days. She called me on the 10th day - that's when I messed up, went to see her, and had to start all over again. Honestly I was a little disappointed when I counted and realized it had only been a week. Feels like so much longer. Hopefully this will get easier for us the more time passes.
Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: kc sunshine on August 07, 2016, 08:57:50 AM Day 2:
go to church see friends eat breakfast feel the sunshine work on house Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: kc sunshine on August 08, 2016, 07:52:31 AM Day 3:
work yoga swim massage laugh with friends work on house plan the rest of the summer Title: Re: NC daily diary Post by: UnforgivenII on August 08, 2016, 09:22:34 AM Day 5
See EMDR therapist See friends Buying new things for the house |