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Title: Telling my ex to stick to our son is causing resistance Post by: JerryRG on August 11, 2016, 07:29:29 PM Hello everyone
Son's mother emailed me a long list of her medical issues and when I ask her to stick to talking about our son and him alone she counters with more drama and chaos. I assume the only way to get her to stop is to just stop all communication? I do well until she starts in and then I want to give up. She's just to sick and toxic to be around. Sent me an email last night asking how I was? I told her to leave me alone and yet she continues to want my attention. Does she still want to be with me or regret being so difficult while we were together? Does she love me or hate me or both? She throws her bf in the convo when she's upset as if to try to make me jealous I don't have time or energy for this immaturity and my son needs me. I'm tired and I lost a very close friend yesterday and I don't need or want my ex in my life any longer. Title: Re: Telling my ex to stick to our son is causing resistance Post by: SoMadSoSad on August 11, 2016, 07:33:32 PM . Does she still want to be with me or regret being so difficult while we were together? Does she love me or hate me or both? Ask her Title: Re: Telling my ex to stick to our son is causing resistance Post by: JerryRG on August 11, 2016, 07:36:17 PM Good point SoMadSoSad
Not sure I really want to know, in the past I didn't have the wisdom to stay away, I think I know better now. Thanks for your responce SoMadSoSad Title: Re: Telling my ex to stick to our son is causing resistance Post by: thisagain on August 11, 2016, 09:09:25 PM Does she still want to be with me or regret being so difficult while we were together? Does she love me or hate me or both? She throws her bf in the convo when she's upset as if to try to make me jealous I don't have time or energy for this immaturity and my son needs me. Sounds like she thrives on drama and wants more of it - about her medical issues, her new bf, anything. The key for you is to not respond and not let it get to you. Keep your own communications BIFF (brief, informative, friendly, firm) and ignore her extra chatter. She can say whatever she wants... .skim the email until you see something about your son, and delete it if there's no mention of your son. Do you think you could do that? Do you want her to still want to be with you, regret how she acted, etc? Having complicated, unresolved feelings like that makes it harder to enforce boundaries. But I think your goal to focus on yourself and your son is absolutely the right one, and you have the power to do that regardless of what your ex writes in e-mails. |