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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: FallBack!Monster on August 12, 2016, 02:23:01 PM



Title: And then this
Post by: FallBack!Monster on August 12, 2016, 02:23:01 PM
 

I'm open to detaching, ready for the world, studying myself, catering to MY wants and needs, got awesome people who are helping, then an email.

I'm sorry. I miss you, I know you don't care for me anymore. You were so much fun to be around but we made a deal and you broke it. I'm not just another gal and I thought you were smart enough to see that. I held on as long as I could. Sorry!  

I hope you're doing fine, etc. Be safe out there.

Much love _______.

I'm not going to ask what it all means because I know it is the push/pull game.  Wanted to share.

Thanks for reading bpdfamily.


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: drained1996 on August 12, 2016, 03:15:25 PM
Fallback,

Any idea what you are going to do with this?

 


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: FallBack!Monster on August 12, 2016, 04:05:49 PM
Fallback,

Any idea what you are going to do with this?

 

I'm going to take it for what it is. Just another pull.


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: VitaminC on August 12, 2016, 05:11:32 PM
I'm going to take it for what it is. Just another pull.

Thanks for the little heads up for the eventuality that this kind of thing happens to others.

And good for you for seeing it for what it is and leaving it at that.


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: FallBack!Monster on August 12, 2016, 05:59:57 PM
I'm going to take it for what it is. Just another pull.

Thanks for the little heads up for the eventuality that this kind of thing happens to others.

And good for you for seeing it for what it is and leaving it at that.

This is heavy on me. Even though I can't be more sure of her objective, which is to know if I'm still game, I can help but to wonder about the following.

Is she so broken she thinks I think like her? Or that I'm so duh I can't  see her coming? Her pattern of behavior is written all over the internet.
 Is she so damaged she feels like iis a new game that only she knows about? Or is she that much out of touch with reality? 

I love myself and will never stop loving me. The fact that I let her in my life, does that make her now think that I don't put me first?

I still have a long road ahead but I'm determined to get there.

The irony is  I always say I know when to say when and the very time I should have put that in to practice, the universe took care of it for me.


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: fromheeltoheal on August 12, 2016, 06:14:08 PM
I'm sorry. I miss you, I know you don't care for me anymore. You were so much fun to be around but we made a deal and you broke it. I'm not just another gal and I thought you were smart enough to see that. I held on as long as I could. Sorry!  

I hope you're doing fine, etc. Be safe out there.

Much love _______.

And to parse it a little:

- an apology
- an invitation
- a claim of omniscience
- an idealization
- an accusation
- a devaluation
- a victim stance
- an apology
- a proclamation of well-wishing
- a command
- a proclamation of love

Whew!


Title: Re: And then this
Post by: Herodias on August 12, 2016, 06:31:15 PM
"And to parse it a little:

- an apology
- an invitation
- a claim of omniscience
- an idealization
- an accusation
- a devaluation
- a victim stance
- an apology
- a proclamation of well-wishing
- a command
- a proclamation of love

Whew!"

That's for sure! Amazing observation fromheeltoheal!