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Title: Going back to family court, need advice Post by: bus boy on August 13, 2016, 08:37:08 AM My son is not neglected by his mother but he is, in a covert way being mentally and emotionally abused. He BF is participating in this abuse willingly or being manipulated into it. I don't know. She is the master of master manipulators. A very cunning, sly, sneaky person. So where do I take this in family court. She is giving a stranger more rights to s9 than me. It's very clear s9 is emotionally abused, it's very clear her BF is helping. Will the court look at this? where do I stand in all of this? The family court worker said I was an exemplary father, she said she wishes all fathers were like me. In my ex's eyes I'm a nothing and the man who is helping in the mental and emotional abuse of my son is looked at as the main father figure in my sons life and the BF seems to think his roll is a father figure.
Title: Re: Going back to family court, need advice Post by: david on August 13, 2016, 06:30:44 PM You need a plan if you go back to court otherwise you will just be wasting money. Finding an attorney that understands your goals and having a plan that both you and the attorney have works best.
Your attorney should be able to tell you what he/she needs and you have to be able to provide it. Courts want concrete solutions to specific issues. Can the family court worker be a witness in your behalf and would it be something your court recognizes ? Example: my ex is unable to help our two boys when it comes to practically anything. However, I had enough solid evidence to show that she was not helping either boy with their school work. I copied every homework for an entire school year. I signed and dated every one they did with me. I didn't realize this at the time but that triggered ex to signing and dating everyone they did when with her. I had a pile of homework for the entire year. On the top was a single sheet that spelled out what was below. The total number of homeworks, the number I signed and dated, the number ex signed and dated, the number that was incomplete or incorrect when at moms, and the number incomplete or incorrect when with dad (none). Ex signed less than 5% of the homeworks and half of those were incorrect or incomplete. My solution was to get 50/50 during the school year and in addition 50/50 during the summer. EX had nothing to counter with and that is how I was able to get 50/50. Since that time ex has given me more time than the court order and I take every time I am offered. My ex viewed that as her not winning and once that happened she was no longer interested in beating me in court. She has made several threats to take me back but both boys grades are better and ex still doesn't help them with their school work. I ignore the threats, they are through email, but save the email. They don't need a response so I don't give one. |