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Title: Moving on after the storm Post by: Huskypilot87 on August 13, 2016, 08:50:41 PM How do I begin? After 15 years of chaos, how does one move forward?
We have moved 1000 miles away to start over. She began seeing a new doctor who prescribed a round of meds that actually work. It's been 8ish months since the last serious event. After dealing with a living hell, how do I move on? How do I cope with present day? I feel as if I'm in a constant psd like a soldier returning from war. She gets mad because I have moments. I'm not the same person anymore. I've lost my cuddly, affectionate, desirable persona. I used to be the life of the party. After affairs, illigetiaamte pregnancies and abortions, stealing, lieing, and more I don't know how to handle the day to day anymore. I feel as if every day is a struggle. She gets it some days but most does not. She wants me to be better. I need affection and love and support. Instead I receive anger and fighting against my needs. I find myself looking at other women, other couples wondering what it's like. Will I ever be able to make peace after the storm? Title: Re: Moving on after the storm Post by: Mutt on August 14, 2016, 02:11:00 PM Hi Huskypilot87,
*welcome* I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult time. I would feel a lot of sadness and stress if every day feels like it's task to get through it. Excerpt I feel as if every day is a struggle. She gets it some days but most does not. I'll share with you what helped me, you're situation is unique to you and what someone else goes through is not necessarily your experience, it's not one size fits all, but we're all here sharing with one another to help each other. My ex wife suffers from a serious mental illness where she has difficulties empathizing with others because she's often emotionally overloaded, it's hard to see from someone else's perspective when you're struggling daily with your own internal battles, she probably gives you the impression that's she's really absorbed? I accepted that my ex wife is emotionally arrested and has social impairments, what she has to go through internally is not personal to me, I had to de-personalize the behaviors and accept her for who is and not for what I wanted her to be. Excerpt Will I ever be able to make peace after the storm? It's definitely possible to move forward but I think that what may help is wiping the slate clean with her past bad behaviors and look at the present as ground-zero, a fresh starting point. What do you think about that? Is that something that you think that you can do? Title: Re: Moving on after the storm Post by: Meili on August 16, 2016, 11:27:52 AM Huskypilot87,
How is it going today? I can understand the PTSD feelings. I have those from my prior relationships. It makes each day a struggle. I can tell you that it is possible to get passed those feelings though. You mentioned that she's got a new doctor and is taking meds. That's a good start. Have you done anything, or thought about seeing someone for what you're going through internally? |