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Title: Was this an attempt to make me feel sorry for him? Post by: insideoutside on August 30, 2016, 06:38:36 AM Hi guys
So although I have accepted that my friendship is over with my friend and I don't ever anticipate reaching out to him ever again or accepting any contact from him should he reach out and no longer feel any angst, I would like to know what others think about one of the responses he sent when I started to get annoyed with him over his discard of me. 'I was really hoping you wouldn't be hostile towards me and be compassionate. You have disappointed me now. Sad way for things to have ended. Remember just how unwell I am. Goodbye'. Was this an attempt to make me feel sorry for him so he didn't come across as the bad guy for discarding me? I responded compassionately to that email and got a rude email from him in return after that. Title: Re: Was this an attempt to make me feel sorry for him? Post by: JerryRG on August 30, 2016, 06:55:38 AM Sounds like he has the perfect excuse, he can leave because he's sick, you are a bad person because he is sick, the world owes him a favour because he is sick.
My exgf does this too, always sick so no one can expect her to behave like an adult. She expects the pirks of adult pleasure without any responsibility for her choices/actions. How can anyone help someone with so many loopholes for life. I heard a doctor describe pwBPD as having personality like jello, just can't grasp it or do anything with it. Just slips right out of your hands. Title: Re: Was this an attempt to make me feel sorry for him? Post by: insideoutside on August 30, 2016, 07:10:39 AM Sounds like he has the perfect excuse, he can leave because he's sick, you are a bad person because he is sick, the world owes him a favour because he is sick. My exgf does this too, always sick so no one can expect her to behave like an adult. She expects the pirks of adult pleasure without any responsibility for her choices/actions. How can anyone help someone with so many loopholes for life. I heard a doctor describe pwBPD as having personality like jello, just can't grasp it or do anything with it. Just slips right out of your hands. Love that quote, made me lol Thanks Jerry, its also what I thought. He blames everything on his illness and takes no responsibility. What annoyed me was saying he was disappointed in me for having no compassion. How dare he; I tried for 12 months to be a compassionate friend, without success. I now have no compassion towards him whosoever or any patience for his victim mentality; I've woken up and see him for what he is. I'm sorry he has a mental illness and his life must be hell because of it, but to be fair, its not my problem. I tried to be his friend, his confidante who he could turn to if he ever needed one but he chose to crap all over me instead and rage at me that he doesn't want me or need my help. His loss. Title: Re: Was this an attempt to make me feel sorry for him? Post by: JerryRG on August 30, 2016, 07:20:08 AM Indeed his loss, I'm glad you see him for who he is, I told my exgf many 100s of times, I AM NOT GOD! I cannot cure you or make you well, that's up to her, if she chooses to stay sick there's nothing I can do to help.
These people need to work on their issues just like anyone else, and being in a constant state of misery, walking on eggshells and torrential fear only bring us down to their level. What good is that? |