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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: steelwork on September 07, 2016, 10:48:40 PM



Title: hypothetical letter
Post by: steelwork on September 07, 2016, 10:48:40 PM
Thank you.
I love you.
Forgive me.
I forgive you.
Goodbye.



Title: Re: hypothetical letter
Post by: steelwork on September 07, 2016, 10:49:12 PM
[What else matters? I heard someone on the radio saying that 1-4 were the most important things to say to your loved ones. #5 is situationally appropriate in this case.]


Title: Re: hypothetical letter
Post by: heartandwhole on September 08, 2016, 09:27:29 AM
Sums it up pretty nicely, I'd say.  Are you thinking of using it, steelwork?



Title: Re: hypothetical letter
Post by: steelwork on September 08, 2016, 10:52:35 AM
I would like to send it, but I'm aware that I would then be on some level anticipating a response, and I guess I'm not to where I can put myself in that position. How sad that I can't even say goodbye.


Title: Re: hypothetical letter
Post by: heartandwhole on September 09, 2016, 06:39:30 AM
How sad that I can't even say goodbye.

I wonder if you can say goodbye alone, in your heart, for your peace of mind? Like a kind of openhearted "letting go" ritual?


Title: Re: hypothetical letter
Post by: unsureuncertain on September 09, 2016, 10:13:58 AM
This seems like a healthy way to detach and therapeutic too! I wouldn't send the letter unless you want to reengage the relationship. Make the letter work for you.