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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: rapror496 on September 09, 2016, 12:07:16 AM



Title: I guess I'm back.
Post by: rapror496 on September 09, 2016, 12:07:16 AM
I first posted here under the name rapeor496 a couple of years ago. To summarize things. My ex lost it stole everything I own and filed a false restraining order.

Anyways, since then I have been doing everything I can to heal from this situation and for the most part things have gone well. Except for one slip. I was cleaning out my parents garage and found a couple of boxes of expensive items my ex lost during a move. I caved and sent her a message just asking where I could send the stuff. I tried bieng polite and offered her a neutral place to send the stuff where she could get it. I was subsequently blocked.

My question is, is there any real reason for blocking me 2 years later? I've never been in a situation where someone would block me instantly without reading the message. I'm sure she would like the stuff back. Once again I'm at a complete loss with this behavior.


Title: Re: I guess I'm back.
Post by: VitaminC on September 09, 2016, 11:31:09 AM
Hi rapror496,

Re the stuff: Is there anywhere else you could send the stuff? A friend or family member who is known to you? You could decide to hang on to it for a certain period of time and then donate it to charity.

As for blocking you two years later - no, there's no rational reason for that. It may have been a panic situation because you caught her off guard in a bad moment, who knows. Perhaps she will read the message, or has done so, and will respond in time.

Either way, you're the one that's saddled with the stuff, so the ball is in your court about how and when you will dispose of it.