BPDFamily.com

Just joined and glad I found this resource.

I've spent over 30 years trying to help my sister with BPD. She was diagnosed several years ago. Now looking back I see that myself and my parents have been in full on caretaker mode without realizing that this was only enabling the condition.

I'm stuck and I can't see a way out for myself. I would appreciate any books that others have found useful in dealing with a sibling and how to start my life over.

thanks
stuck1234

Hi stuck1234,

*welcome*

I'd like to welcome you to bpdfamily. BPD  can be difficult to detect and a pwBPD are scared of the world and need emotional caretaker. You'll find many members here that can offer you guidance and support.

Paul Mason's and Randi Kreger's book "Stop Walking on Eggshells (https://bpdfamily.com/book-reviews/stop-walking-on-eggshell) is a good book for family members that have a loved one that suffers from BPD.

Another book that comes to mind that explains the family r/s dynamics well is Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, Stop taking care of the borderline or narcissist. (http://www.caretaking-borderline-or-narcissist)

Your username suggests that you're struggling, what's going on with your sister? Are you in communication with her? Is she in therapy? It helps to talk.

HI stuck1234:   
I'd like to join Mutt in welcoming you!

There are several links to the upper right of this post.  They lead to some helpful information. 

The link below will lead you to a list of the top 50 questions about BPD.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=45.0;sort=views;desc

I'm looking forward to hearing some more details about your relationship with your sister.  As Mutt mentioned, there are a lot of helpful people who are willing to share and talk to you.

Hi stuck1234,

In what ways do you feel stuck? I'm in a similar position with my own uBPD sibling.

Do you live close to your BPD sibling? What's the relationship like currently?

Is your sister accepting the diagnosis?

Glad you found the site  :)

LnL