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She must have some serious pride, which I knew she did before.
I know, i know. It is "good" she isn't reaching out to me... .

But i don't know. I'm still in disbelief, in how she is able to just have zero contact with me and be okay.

I think they might've broken up, and yet still nothing from her.
Why are some exes here such reachers for supply from a long term ex, and then others don't even manage to do that?

My ex has been %100 silent for the entire 8.5 months since she broke it off with me.

Day one she unfriended me, as well as all of my friends and family on Facebook and all social media.

I reached out to her at the 4.5 month mark and recieved a response that was warming but really "friend-zone-ish".

Then a week or so later I saw her and it seems like she absolutely despised me.

I asked her if we could have a moment to talk and she scowled and said "not right now." then she walked away to hang out with my replacement.

Now, from what I can tell she is still with him and their relationship is growing.

It hurts. Although I am "fine" most of the time.

I often wonder if I'll ever hear from her.

Hey Indifferent-


Think attachments with borderlines; a borderline needs an attachment to feel whole, even to feel like they exist at all.  You may pop up on her radar as a possible attachment, and if she were to contact you and you give her an indication that an emotional attachment is still in place, she would feel better.  The reasons for not doing that could be shame, she feels so ashamed about whatever went down between you that thinking of you feels bad, so don't go there, or she's taken that shame and put it on you, so you're "bad", a handy way to off all the negative feelings about the relationship.  Or, she's found another way to get her attachment needs met.

So how is your detachment going Indifferent?  How much does it still matter what she's up to, and how can you use that?