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Title: The End
Post by: aristan2000 on October 03, 2016, 06:42:56 AM
I've had it with my other and what people accurately descibe as "her drama." We ended up getting back together in late June/early July of this year. Initially things went very well.  We had great sex and fun times but then... .the drama. She got evicted from her home, supposedly because her 10 year old son rode a bicycle into a bush (?), she vanished for several days and then told me she was in the hospital with "heart problems." Later she moved in with a girl from work after being evicted and told me the girl's lesbian mother had the hots for her and that it disgusted her. LOng story short, I unblocked her temporarily from my facebook and lo and behold: She's in an open, public relationship with this girl's lesbian mother. I've just had it with this irrational madness and and want nothing to do with her again. This is just too crazy.


Title: Re: The End
Post by: heartandwhole on October 04, 2016, 03:13:56 AM
Hi aristan2000,

That is so tough. I'm sorry about your breakup. Shocking turnabouts like that can be really painful. I can relate.

How are you doing now? Are your friends and family supportive?

Things DO get better. It takes time, though, and effort.

We're here for you. 

heartandwhole


Title: Re: The End
Post by: Rayban on October 04, 2016, 05:32:03 AM
Hey anstan2000,

I know it's painful to live through right now, but you should be counting your blessings. Staying with this person would involve many more episodes like this. She would be bouncing from one person to another.

They are attention junkies in need of constant validation where they will chase, charm, seduce anyone who will make them feel desired.  In their minds, if they are desired, then they feel they have self worth.

One other thing looking back at my own relationship,  my ex would always talk bad about someone, and it was a tell tale sign that they were either grooming or with this person.