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We've all heard the rate of suicide among pwBPD is higher than average and in some cases an act may not be intentional and the result can be fatal.

My exgf has got to have chaos and drama in her life and I believe it is because she hurts so much inside that the chaos distracts from her inner turmoil.

The chaos causes so much stress for the person involved with the BPD, isn't it fair to say that relationships don't work because life with these people is just so caotic that the intention may not be the pwBPD want their sos to leave them, but the sos just cannot handle it any longer?

I intended this post to answer someone's question, I don't feel well so I must made a mistake

Hi Jerry, I think they just have to have something going on all the time. I am kind of angry right now, because as I sit and stress through a hurricane with my Mom and Step dad in my one bedroom apartment. My ex goes on yet a fourth vacation since we split. I don't think his gf is ever working... she is probably going to get fired herself! He owes me money and has not paid... .I saw on Facebook that they just went to a festival up in NC and are shopping! I seriously think the gf has issues too! I don't know what is going on with them, but how do you just keep spending money that you supposedly don't have? I am tired after all this weekend. Very grateful not to have had any issues during the storm, but now I need to take things up with my lawyer again. I just want to get this lawyer off of retainer! My sister said I need to make him pay me through the court system... .maybe that way he will do it. Sorry you are not feeling well. Yes, they can't sit still. I feel like a drama queen myself sometimes... .I can sit still, but I guess due to being empathetic, things affect me more. I am glad to have the info from Facebook to show the court though... .and I really am not jealous of what he is doing. I actually find it really odd. It doesn't seem like his personality at all. Axe throwing (him and her) at some heritage festival in the mountains... .hmmm. Mr., I love the city life? How very strange they are! It does make sense what you are saying about staying distracted from their inner turmoil. I just want my inner turmoil to stop. We have good days and bad days... .You do wonder how anyone can handle the chaos long term. It was torture for me... .I read that because we are so inclined to help people and because these are people we love, we feel like we need to help them. They take advantage, because they know this. They really seem to know the way people think... .they know how to use us to help them and know how we will react. They don't seem to really care how it looks to others because there is always someone there to clean up their mess! It's about boundaries and learning to let people suffer their own consequences and not keep fixing things. I suppose I need to not let all of this bother me with my ex either. I will do what I have to do... .I feel better writing it out here now. Just a moment of anger venting is all we need sometimes, lol Take care and feel better!