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My gf, we used to see each other a few years back, and broke up for a couple years, and I guess I was recycled and we got back together this year.  She accused me of giving her a std and asked was I cheating on her, I was shocked, because I dated 2 girls while broken up with her whom she knew about that, who I am still friends with to this day. She says one of them gave you something.  Neither has ever said anything of the sort, I've never thought anything.  So, I get tested everything was negative, and the doctor said me you need to ask her some questions.  I told her and showed her proof of the results.  She said what do you want me to do with that info?  I asked have you been with someone she says no.  I've been doubting this info, but we get into a argument and she always bring up I gave her a std, and I told her I've never had a std I was negative.  My gut is telling me she uses to gain some type of upper hand, but got it elsewhere if she ever had it at all.  Anyone been accused of anything like that, but didn't have it?

Hi eclectic,

It sounds like projection to me. Often pwBPD will project their issues onto someone else.

My guess is she is perhaps worried about her past sexual history and concerned about her own infections. Did you ask her to be tested too?

Or she may be feeling betrayed about you having had other sexual partners ( particularly if you are still friends) and the std thing is a way to make you feel bad about your (In her mind) Infidelity. These rules are typically one sided. ie you are required to behave a certain way and she may not be so strict on herself.

I think it's the second. But perhaps rule the first one out by having her tested.

I agree completely with what Moselle said, eclectic.

It's only fair that both parties get tested. I recommend you insist on this, for your own protection.