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Title: Anyone tried a restraining order? Post by: RippedTorn on October 16, 2016, 05:10:02 PM My BPD wife refuses to leave even though I have filed for divorce. Of course that is because she has it good living in my house with me paying all the bills. Being emotionally about 3 years old, why would such a child want to leave home. I have an attorney and have read the law about restraining orders for spousal abuse and elder abuse. She has begun to steal some of my stuff, harass my housekeeper, and of course continue to blame and rage. Need advice. Trying NC and mentally I am detached but cannot seem to get spatially detached.
Title: Re: Anyone tried a restraining order? Post by: gotbushels on October 23, 2016, 07:28:16 AM Hi RippedTorn
I'm not sure about the RO. You're probably better served asking your attorney about that. Regarding the emotional age of your partner as a reason for her not wanting to leave, it's not easy to guess what the partner's true reason for an action is. Often when thinking about whys, what can help is accepting that there often isn't one consistent answer, so it may not be very productive to look in this area. I understand a little about the mental detachment, but without spatial detachment. Sometimes even when partners live away from each other, seeing each other in the same space can cause us to react mentally. If this happens at home, it might help to have a quiet place that only you can be in. In this space, you can re-detach mentally. Does that makes sense? Or, if you have a quiet (safe) part of the neighbourhood nearby, you can consider that as well. I do think that this process will get easier for you over time. I don't know how able you are to talk to your wife, but if you're both able to have productive communications, you can look at arranging your own spaces and timings so both of you are able to get that mental separation. I hope that helps. :) Title: Re: Anyone tried a restraining order? Post by: RippedTorn on October 23, 2016, 04:46:29 PM Thanks. Finally she moved out. It was a problem because on any day she would start bullying me, belittling me, or raging. What a difference with her out of the house. Peace and quiet and no Eggshells. Thanks for the reply.
Title: Re: Anyone tried a restraining order? Post by: gotbushels on October 29, 2016, 03:29:00 AM Hi RippedTorn
I'm glad to see this has resolved for you and you have some peace. I hope you continue to get that restfulness. Enjoy your weekend. :) |