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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Bushido on October 17, 2016, 03:19:31 PM



Title: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Bushido on October 17, 2016, 03:19:31 PM
hi... ya all...
it´s funny how making the right choices can actually put you in an
even harder situation.
so... .i moved out to day (staying at my moms for the week) so that miss demanding exBPD can stay home
with the kids. I say ... .this is my kids home! this is the place where they are safe. . . close to school and friends. . . and there is no f... .way i´m going to let her destroy the only safe place they have.
She can try to destroy her past and rewrite history... .
... .when it comes to my kids... .there is nothing that can stop me! even a destructive and self centered creature like her!

so here i am starting my first week of this alone sh...
and will focus on me. . . and my own life.


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Sadly on October 17, 2016, 03:24:49 PM
It's a good thing you are doing for your children Bushido. Are you going to do it every other week until she gets a place for herself sorted?  I hope you enjoy finding yourself again   


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Lucky Jim on October 17, 2016, 03:40:11 PM
Hey Bushido, As hard as it is for you, moving out temporarily may reduce stress on you and, more importantly, your kids.  Suggest you listen to your gut feelings.  What is the right path for you?  You know yourself better than anyone else, so that's the place to start, in my view.

LuckyJim


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Bushido on October 17, 2016, 05:02:43 PM
It's a good thing you are doing for your children Bushido. Are you going to do it every other week until she gets a place for herself sorted?  I hope you enjoy finding yourself again   
thank you sadly... .
the signed agreement is until new years...
then she should get a place in her parents house but
it didn´t take her long to say she has a place out of town ( with the new bf )
i don´t give a ___ what she does!
but she is not draging my kids into her insanity ! that´s for sure!
i can take care of my kids alone... .i´ve been doing it with a hurricain in house...
os i can do it easily ALONE!


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Bushido on October 17, 2016, 05:34:01 PM
Hey Bushido, As hard as it is for you, moving out temporarily may reduce stress on you and, more importantly, your kids.  Suggest you listen to your gut feelings.  What is the right path for you?  You know yourself better than anyone else, so that's the place to start, in my view.
LuckyJim

this is my path to take... .it may not be easy but i am moving forward and everything i do, i do for my kids.
Everyone has told me to just sell the house and then i will be free from miss crazy!
Even staff at the school!
But i know my kids and they need one safe place in all this mess...


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Sadly on October 18, 2016, 02:37:29 AM
How old are your children Bushido?


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Bushido on October 18, 2016, 06:08:35 AM
How old are your children Bushido?
D11, D8, D7 and B7 (twins)


Title: Re: moved out of my own home.. week 1
Post by: Sadly on October 18, 2016, 07:57:44 AM
Wow, you lucky guy, all that love from little people. I think your plan sounds excellent and they are so lucky to have you.       for each of them and one for you. x