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Title: Emotional Light Switch Post by: jenniferadair on October 18, 2016, 09:27:15 PM HI everyone! My husband has not been professionally diagnosed with BPD but has all the classic traits that go along with it. We are currently separated due to a conflict that escalated into physical injury. I talk to him on the phone for the most part because I cannot bring myself to see him face to face. My question is that my husband can turn his emotions on and off like a light switch. Tonight he went from crying hysterically (to the point where I could not understand a word he was saying) to calm and loving. Is this a normal characteristic associated with BPD?
Title: Re: Emotional Light Switch Post by: Circle on October 19, 2016, 09:22:10 AM Hello,
Basically BPD is an emotional regulation disorder. I can fathom a person with BPD (pwBPD) having that drastic emotional switch, if it occured naturally. However, if it seemed contrived, I would guess that it was either: a. For manipulation, or b. Another cluster-b personality disorder. Cluster B personality disorder traits: ( www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/dxc-20247656 ) Welcome to bpdfamily! Title: Re: Emotional Light Switch Post by: Lucky Jim on October 19, 2016, 10:55:11 AM Hey Jennifer, Welcome! You have come to a great place. Sure, I think those w/BPD are experts at using their emotions for manipulation. If one approach isn't working, it's common for them to switch gears. What makes you think your H has BPD?
LuckyJim Title: Re: Emotional Light Switch Post by: amsheehy on October 19, 2016, 11:50:37 AM Hi Jennifer,
I've been involved with the quiet type and she absolutely can go from genuinely hysterical and sobbing to acting like nothing happened within a very short period of time. It's indeed like the flip of a switch and something we've discussed on numerous occasions. I might be upset about something for a number of hours/days and will dwell on it, but not necessarily fall to pieces crying whereas she'll experience a sudden rush of extreme emotions and have a total breakdown, but will recover much more quickly. |