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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: ItsVal on October 19, 2016, 04:05:39 AM



Title: Just made a big mistake I think
Post by: ItsVal on October 19, 2016, 04:05:39 AM
After two weeks of NC and her doing some weird things, I knew she had to attend a funeral today and I just sent her two messages, expressing my support but I'm hyper about it, did I do wrong in sending messages?


Title: Re: Just made a big mistake I think
Post by: C.Stein on October 19, 2016, 10:32:03 AM
Why do you feel "hyper"?


Title: Re: Just made a big mistake I think
Post by: ItsVal on October 19, 2016, 11:40:56 AM
Well see -> https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=299561.0

After that some other stuff happened, she reached out to a friend of mine stating she wasn't feeling well, got sick of her ex trying to control what she's doing (father of her child) and stuff like that, they agreed to have lunch the next day, she took him with her and when the friend said no thx, I wanted to talk to you alone she raged against her ... .stuff like that.

She's not doing well, letting him manipulate her with spiritual stuff and all ... .

Sigh, I don't know anymore ... .


Title: Re: Just made a big mistake I think
Post by: Aussie0zborn on October 20, 2016, 07:29:56 AM
Not the best move, my friend. If you've separated and you're practising NC it's not your business to send her messages of support. How about using your sympathy for yourself and getting yourself to a better place?

So what if she reached out to a friend and it didn't work out. This is not an issue for you. The only issue for you right now is... .YOU.