|
Title: What to do when kids are involved. Post by: JoJo1982 on October 24, 2016, 04:13:35 AM My husband has recently been diagnosed with BPD. However, getting to this diagnosis has been a roller coaster ride to say the least. He has recently been through an intense crisis situation but he is having a very difficult time functioning since then. I am feeling very overwhelmed with trying to support him, caring for 2 small children, working full time and keeping a household running. Does anyone have any tips for maintaining your own sanity?
Title: Re: What to do when kids are involved. Post by: ambivalentmom on October 24, 2016, 10:48:49 AM Welcome to BPD Family,
I have been a member for a little over a year and am very glad I found it because of the resources available. As for your sanity right now, I would suggest seeking help where you can and taking time for yourself. If you have family in the area to help, counseling, extra daycare, or play dates. Accept others offers to help as much as possible. I've noticed a lot of nonBPD on this site (myself included) are very self-sacrificing, so really make sure you're taking time for yourself too. I also hope you find more resources on this site and have a chance to let us know more, so we can support you specific to your situation. Have a great day. Title: Re: What to do when kids are involved. Post by: VitaminC on October 24, 2016, 11:29:35 AM Hi Jojo!
I'd like to join ambivalent mom in saying *welcome* That's good advice, I feel, about taking care of yourself. You have a lot to process and to do at the moment. Are you still together? To what degree are you involved in each other's lives? In what way are you "supporting" him? May I ask what age your children are? Are they in school? This is definitely a time to pull in the troops in terms of giving you a hand with the different practical things that you need help with! Who are the people you can call on? Be mindful that you don't exhaust yourself. Your husband's diagnosis is a very good thing and the start of another journey, for which you will need your strength - especially if you are living together and/or co-parenting. Taking a couple of hours a week to do something good just for yourself is a wonderful way to protect and nourish your sanity. This can be therapy, if you feel you would benefit from it, or a swim/sauna, regular meeting with friends, a massage, a wander around some shops, a walk in nature - whatever gives you some peace and yourself back to yourself. There are excellent resources here too. Tell us more, Jojo, we are here for you. |