|
Title: Please help me be good to Post by: FallBack!Monster on October 25, 2016, 07:56:56 PM I hope I can ask this because older post say their behavior is the disorder but them the replies tell them to view and treat the pwBPD in their life bad.
Are you people friends here? bc it look like you only talk to each other. The same user names and writing styles. Is that why nobody reply to my questions? and how comes you say the same things to everybody? Do you copy and paste or every new person should here the same thing? To be able to heal?. I ask bc if I start replying to newbies, you know, to help and stuff should I just copy and paste from post like this? Or another post the exact same words over and and over again? Oh and why if you here to help everyone you only reply to each some? and are some members here mean to you? Because I don't want people to think I'm bitter or have a PD myself or hurt their feelings but saying I'm helping them bc idk to do it like y'all. If I don't do it correctly my comments my not come out mean to hurt and make the people feel abandoned, hurt, lonely, desperate, dreadful, and that's just what I think bc maybe I'm not understanding this type of therapy. One more... .Do you really think all those exs are cut with the same rusty scissors or is this words to make the "abusee" feel welcome here and keep sharing their views. I want to learn to write things like you. Do I have to change my mind set or do I just say whatever to make the people feel, bc atm they don't? Why am I restricted?. I didn't do nothing wrong. I just don't get paid to much money that why I haven't given. But I will give you some soon as i. Get it Thank you, upfront. Title: Re: Please help me be good to Post by: fromheeltoheal on October 26, 2016, 03:47:55 AM Hi Done4better-
You sound frustrated. That's OK, we've all been frustrated, these relationships are challenging. Can you tell us what's going on with your relationship? You mentioned back in July that your boyfriend had moved out 10 months earlier but you still see each other; is that still the case, do you still see him? What's the goal? Title: Re: Please help me be good to Post by: enlighten me on October 26, 2016, 04:10:34 AM Hi done4better
A lot of the answer will seem the same as a lot of our experiences are almost identicle. There are members here that are new and still getting their heads around what has happened. Our recovery takes time and we go through many changes in attitude and view. Some are angry, some sad, some confused or a mixture of them all. We all have our own process for dealing with this Some can leap straight to radical acceptance. They accept the relationship was toxic and can move on. Most here are looking for answers and the more you learn then you can come to your own conclusion. Some here have children with their pwBPD, some none. Some where only in a relationship for months and others years. What underlies all our circumstances is that BPD behaviour is fairly consistent. Therefore a lot of the answers are consistent. |