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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: burton2070 on October 28, 2016, 02:37:41 PM



Title: She's engaged.
Post by: burton2070 on October 28, 2016, 02:37:41 PM
First some history. I was discarded in late May after a 1.5 year relationship where our children were close to each other, she was close to my parents and we were engaged. It came out of nowhere - like it does. By June, she had someone and this weekend they announced their engagement. I will say that this website/board has helped tremendously because I was completely expecting this.

Also, it does get better. The first month, I thought I would die from depression and anxiety. It has slowly gotten better each month. Last weekend, I went camping with old friends and made some new friends. I felt like my old self for the first time in a long time. And one of the new friends that I met MIGHT just be a possible "more than friend" in the future. It feels so nice and normal to take that kind of thing slow and explore a new friendship first.

Between doing so much better with my friends and this board preparing me for what will likely come, I barely flinched when I saw that engagement announcement. Hang in there. Time is the great healer. 


Title: Re: She's engaged.
Post by: heartandwhole on October 28, 2016, 02:55:21 PM
Burton2070, I'm really glad to hear that you are feeling like yourself again. Well done for handling the news so well. That is not always easy.

It sounds like you are traveling well on recovery road and I wish you all the best going forward, with friends and possibly "more than friends."  :)

heartandwhole


Title: Re: She's engaged.
Post by: JerryRG on October 28, 2016, 02:59:34 PM
Hey burton2070

My exgf was engaged a month after I kicked her out, they need attachments. Imagine being married to them, what would that be like?

They are dreamers, anything for attention and drama all to distract from thier inner turmoil and self hatred. Isn't it sad they never learn? My exgf demanded we get engaged after being together around 2 months, I was completely caught off guard when she told her new bf I raped her prior to engaging her. The brilliant shrew must have thought this one up and now she's justified in doing anything she wants, including abandoning our 2 year old son.

We dodged a bullet, certain disaster. The weatherman said she's coming, catagory 5, better get the hell away... .and I decide to sit it out, and have a child with her.

That's what gets me so angry, I was so stupid!

That was then, glad to hear you're dealing with your ex in a healthy way. Thanks for your positive post.