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Title: I can't understand Post by: helpinghimorme on November 01, 2016, 03:59:32 PM I believe my ex is uBPD. This is the 6th time he has cheated and it is a vicious cycle. When I feel we are finally secure again in out relationship, he cheats. He tells me a million excuses as to why it is justified and my fault. Now he is with her and I am left holding on to the kids who are falling apart and the house we just bought. He tells me he just needed a ring on his finger? It's like he can't turn down advances? Is this crazy? I never understand when this happens and never see it coming! How do I move on?
Title: Re: I can't understand Post by: fromheeltoheal on November 01, 2016, 04:31:57 PM Hi helping-
How do I move on? Well, first, if he's cheated 6 times that means you've taken him back 5 times in the past yes? So what's different this time? Are you committed to ending the relationship and detaching? Title: Re: I can't understand Post by: helpinghimorme on November 01, 2016, 08:24:01 PM He isn't willing to do anything different to help himself. I feel like I just enable him to be so destructive.
Title: Re: I can't understand Post by: fromheeltoheal on November 01, 2016, 08:53:22 PM He isn't willing to do anything different to help himself. I feel like I just enable him to be so destructive. OK, good self-awareness helpinghim. If you were going to do exactly what you wanted to do, what would it be? Title: Re: I can't understand Post by: helpinghimorme on November 01, 2016, 09:18:39 PM Save him.
But I can't accomplish that, I've tried for 11 years. Now I need to save myself and the kids. |